Anonymous #1 3d

Your insurance under your parents is still active when you are married. Source: I’m married.

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Anonymous #1 3d

If you are only preventing getting married due to finances being married actually helps increases your tax refund and lessens how much tax you get taken out of each check

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Anonymous #1 3d

My whole thing is should a person only get married when they’re retired when they’re at their most successful? No, I don’t agree with that. This is a classist mindset. Marriage is about the journey of people and their relationship. You change so much in your 20s, 30s+ so to be together FOREVER, what’s preventing it if you’re going to be together anyways

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Anonymous OP 3d

And that’s your opinion. And that’s fine. That’s not what I see for myself. I would much rather have my OWN life together first before marriage. And that’s perfectly okay! And when did I say getting married when you’re retired? I make $15/hr and live with my dad, I am in no place to get married because I have not found my own way yet on my own. I am a very big believer in living your life and figuring out who you are before committing yourself to marriage. And my bf is perfectly fine with that.

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Anonymous #1 3d

On that same note you said, if we are gonna be together forever then what’s the issue with waiting for marriage

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Anonymous #1 3d

Because you never know what’s going to happen in a marriage, currently I don’t live with my husband and we both live with our families due to familial health issues. You can’t necessarily wait for a perfect time for anything because nothing is ever perfect. It is your life and that’s fine, but marriage isn’t a Be-all-end-all and if you wait for perfection you might wait forever

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Anonymous OP 3d

Hun idk why you’re fighting over what we each think is best for our lives. If I can’t pay for my wedding then I’m not getting married! Marriage is not an end all be all for me. I have no issue never getting married in my life. There’s absolutely nothing wrong with wanting to financially support yourself before something as big as marriage.

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Anonymous #1 3d

I never said marriage was the best thing for you at all

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Anonymous #1 3d

I’m arguing that marriage doesn’t have to be based on financial stability at all that’s classist

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Anonymous OP 3d

Ok and that’s your opinion. lol I want to make my own money before being married there’s literally nothing wrong with that. I’m in a committed relationship I don’t need a marriage certificate to make me happy. Lots of people want to build their careers before getting married. Others don’t.

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Anonymous #1 3d

That’s fine for you but the reason I even made the post is because OP said “I don’t know why people would do this” and that’s a classist argument. You responding made me defend my point you’re taking it personally I’m talking about a very general consensus.

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Anonymous #1 3d

Whether people get married or not is none of my business I’m pro marriage. I’m pro gay marriage. I’m pro interracial marriage as I’m in one. I don’t like this rhetoric about policing who gets married because it’s a very slippery slope on classism, ableism, homophobia and racism.

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Anonymous OP 3d

Because literally people that are on disability, a lot of them will not get married because they will lose a lot of of their benefits by being married that is wrong and that is rooted in financial issues. I like the idea of marriage or people can come together and then they make more money because they are married. These are the arguments we need to be making not “oh but I’m still in college” like ok then you can wait.

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Anonymous OP 3d

Girl it was my post. The point was how people get married so fast without even fully knowing each other or themselves. You’re talking about whole other issues.

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Anonymous #1 3d

No, you mentioned having long term careers as well which means money. You also mentioned $15 an hr. So people making that shouldn’t be married? Classist.

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Anonymous #1 3d

YOU can get married whenever you want but don’t force that narrative down other people’s throats and judge them.

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