i’m not trying to sound lonely but every man just wants to fuck me or use me as eye candy and i hate that. all my guy friends had crushes on me, even at my last college the whole dorm section / hall were making bets on having sex with me and it wasn’t just 5-8 people, it was like 30+. it made me feel disgusted and not even wanna leave my dorm room. why can’t men genuinely see they are the issue most of the time, it breaks my heart.
Good men went into hiding. Hiding in plain sight. They’re the hundreds of men you walk past every single day. Some of them are average looking, some of them are ugly. Few of them are attractive, and if they are they’re not attractive in the way you would notice on a first glance. Some of them aren’t content with this but for the most part they are or they can manage just fine. There’s an off chance the guy who wrote his number on the back of your receipt or the guy who complimented your dress
That’s disgusting I’m so sorry. And I know women are friendly towards objectively wanted or pretty women either. I had to learn the same thing to love myself more and take myself on dead ass real dates alone bc my last relationship was 4 years and it was doing all this same work but also begging and dragging along a man who never even posted a pic of me. So. Yikers. Talk abt eye candy or smth dude didn’t want nobody to see me 💀
Is that “good guy”, but for the most part he’s not doing any of that. He thinks he isn’t welcome, and has come to terms with that. Especially as he gets into his 20’s. Maybe he is welcome, maybe everything he’s seen and read is a lie told by hurt women who just want to find something to get closure from. He doesn’t know, and he probably never will.
The bad guy, the monster under the bed, is the one you’re going to notice. The guy who gets attention and knows it. The guy who thinks the world owes him finality and his dreams. And if he has to, he has no qualms in taking it. He doesn’t understand what it means to be in love and he doesn’t try either. He has his own definitions and he doesn’t compromise on them.