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Is anyone else kinda against marriage mostly for the whole “we’re together until we die” thing? I can’t make vows like that? People change and what if you end up being a bad spouse? Ik ik there’s divorce but the whole vows thing throws me off
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Anonymous 1d

me and my ex were on the path to getting married. we swore to each other we'd make it work no matter what... then his mask dropped. he told me he hated talking to me. that i would die alone. that everything would be perfect i just let him fix me. then he'd say sorry... then he'd get mad and say it all over again. did i break my vow to him? yes. does that make me a liar? maybe. but i had to put me first.

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Anonymous 1d

yeah becuase when you think of it marriage just puts roadblocks in ur way when you want to leave them like it makes it harder and it shouldn’t be hard

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Anonymous 1d

that’s kinda the point of marriage tho. like trusting and choosing you’ll continue to love each other even as you change, and working to keep putting effort into the relationship/other person

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 1d

Exactly, I never want to feel trapped or like I can’t financially leave or divorce! I never want to get divorced, sounds like hell. I’d rather have a long term partner until things don’t work out anymore bc ppl change and neglect relationships

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 1d

Yeah I can’t make that kinda commitment bc a lot of men change into shitty and abusive partners

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 1d

yeah that’s fair, i def think i have a different view of it bc im a lesbian

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 1d

Yeah it’s like I can try as hard as I can to maintain a relationship but that doesn’t mean the other person will, ya know. A two way street

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 1d

for sure, if you know that’s not what you want you shouldn’t pursue it. marriage and relationships in general require a lottttt of trust and faith

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Anonymous replying to -> #3 1d

to some people, they'll treat you like shit because they know you'll always be there to take it. i dont think i could ever make a vow like that again. im now VERY MUCH an advocate of breaking up. ALWAYS be prepared to leave if ur not treated right

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Anonymous replying to -> #3 1d

This is exactly what I’m scared of!! I’ve heard of these kinda stories all the time and it has happened to cousins and family friends. I think my fear also comes from the fact that my parents are still together, married almost 34 years, and they never seemed to love each other like spouses should. No affection at all growing up. They’d always bicker. My dad is mean to my mom. My mom settled and would never divorce bc she’s just used to it and has accepted that. I want better for me

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 1d

marriage sounds like a beautiful thing. but im never again giving up my sanity and self respect just to say that im in a relationship. things were perfect at first, but you DO NOT KNOW how someone can change. but if this means im not marriage material, so be it 😭💔

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