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Girl Talk 13w
my bf & i have been together for over 3 yrs now & i thought he’d be the one i marry, but i’ve been reconsidering things lately. he has a lot going on recently & he takes his stress out on me. he’s constantly putting me down, blame everything on me, & (1)
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Anonymous 13w

welp time to move on. it’s not going to be easy but you can do it. you already realized you deserve better, and know you need to actually take the steps to end the relationship. you should be proud of yourself but it’s not over. you can do it

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Anonymous 13w

but i also am scared about what i’d do if i left. like where would i move to, would i even go back to my way of thinking i used to have? today really confirmed for me that i do deserve better when he we were supposed to go to his dads & he turned around & came home bc he said i had an attitude even though i didn’t. i stayed quiet the whole rude bc i knew he was already stressed

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Anonymous 13w

it has all ruined my state of mind. i don’t feel like i should be loved, i blame myself for things even when ik they aren’t my fault & honestly i’m really not happy anymore. we do live together & i think that’s part of why i haven’t left which is sad to me. ik i’m not the best person ever but i also know that i’m not a horrible person. i’ve let this relationship shape how i think about myself when i used to be someone who didn’t care at all about what others thought of me. ik i deserve better(2)

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Anonymous 13w

be gentle and slow with yourself. you have time to figure this out. sounds like you’ve already made this decision, and it sounds like it’s for the best. you have outgrown each other, and that’s ok. but now you can’t grow anymore in this relationship, it’s hindering you. take time to figure things out, talk to your friends/family, start looking for a new living situation. make sure you have a plan and then end things. you will get your confidence back and it will be like night and day. 1/2

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 13w

2/2 you just need to heal from this and that will take time but you will become a happier and healthier and stronger version of yourself once you’re out of this situation. and you haven’t lost it all yet, because you KNOW you deserve better. i’m so sorry this is happening. i know it’s so hard, 3 years is a lot of history. but that history can still be important and yet not continue. you can do this

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 13w

Leave. Unless you wanna spend the rest of your life with this. Leave. Don’t be scared of the unknown that’s to come, be excited, you get to focus on yourself and do what makes you happy without caring about anything else! You won’t be the same as you were before this relationship and that’s the whole point, every person in our life changes us in some way. Move on as you are now and go look for your new you <3

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