Anonymous #1 9w

Help wdym u don’t exist? Just curious

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Anonymous mother_russia 9w

It’s the same mentality of a man… like you’d use a woman for sexual gratification but you don’t want to know and to love her beyond pleasure like?

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Anonymous mother_russia 9w

They also don’t view women the same as men like the relationships aren’t equal in weight so it’s sexist even if they are TRULY sexually attracted to women

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Anonymous mother_russia 9w

Not to gate keep labels but some people confuse the hell out of me with that😭

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Anonymous mother_russia 9w

Most ppl say it’s “bisexual heteroromantic” like girl… it’s kind of just u want to settle down w a man and sleep w girls be so fr… :/

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Anonymous OP 9w

No that’s so real because how can you be bisexual and sexist 😭

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Anonymous OP 9w

U guys are reading into it. Most the time these are just people who prefer playing the women’s role in a relationship. Lesbian relationships don’t really have many inherent gender roles bc it’s not heteronormative. It’s harder to navigate

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Anonymous #3 9w

Lesbian relationships can have gender roles, they can be both femmes or both masc or a mix of both…

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Anonymous mother_russia 9w

Sexual and romantic attraction are 2 completely different things

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Anonymous #3 9w

It’s honestly not harder to navigate, it’s just less conceptualized in society. Lesbian relationships are much easier than heterosexual relationships in my experience because there are millions of topics she will know that a cis man would not. Which is like if you are romantically attracted to women but would never date them, that’s probably internalized homophobia. We don’t need gender roles at all, it’s just to venture outside of the norm means you have to learn and grow.

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Anonymous #4 9w

Yes absolutely, but typically when you have a sexuality that is different than your romantic attraction, you’ll separate out the identities rather than say a sexuality but then go “but id never date a woman”. The only women I’ve known to do that have had internalized homophobia, me included but mine was like a religious “I’m attracted to them but it’s a sin” thing which I got over lol

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Anonymous #5 9w

That’s fair, I’m sorry that she’s in that situation

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Anonymous mother_russia 9w

It’s just a lot more common than yall think! I also probably will marry a man one day. It is just simply easier that way. I find that’s often a reason why people say stuff like they’re bi would never date a woman. Sometimes it is internalized homophobia but it’s usually more complex than that

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Anonymous OP 9w

They’re less inherent roles though so they’re more flexible, I literally am a gender studies major

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Anonymous #3 9w

And I’m a psychology major like…

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Anonymous #5 9w

Yeah I get in society it is easier to just be in straight/straight passing relationships but emotionally I feel it’s easier to be married to whoever you fall in love with. I assumed I would marry a woman because when u was younger that was the only future I imagined I would be happy in, but unfortunately (kidding) I fell in love with a man and we are planning to get married. I’ve never seen social struggles as a reason to not love someone including with my homophobic family but in my case

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Anonymous #5 9w

I’m not in a dangerous position or place to be with a woman and although my family might cut me off, I don’t feel like fragile relationships like that are worth defending or trying to preserve. Maybe I’m just more stubborn about things or it’s that I’ve never had really healthy relationships with my family so I don’t value that as much? But anyway, that’s been my pov when it comes to marrying someone while being attracted to multiple genders.

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Anonymous #5 9w

By social, I mean like homophobia, legal prejudice, and discrimination. Like things people & government do to actively try to deter others from being in queer relationships.

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Anonymous mother_russia 9w

Yes I totally get you! I think in me and my friends case we both have wonderful relationships with our family, they just happen to be very religious. To us, it isn’t worth breaking the relationship because otherwise it is very strong and beneficial. So it just depends!

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Anonymous #5 9w

That makes sense. I’m sorry that you both are in a position like that where you have to choose between loves like that

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Anonymous mother_russia 9w

I get what you’re saying and that totally could be the case for a lot of people .. but I also feel like I would want to date someone I was both romantically and sexually attracted to, not just someone I’m only sexually attracted to. You can’t really control that stuff at all.. trust me, I am asexual and I hate it so much.😵‍💫 Though, I do think if it were me in this situation I just wouldn’t label myself as bi, even if I was ig technically.

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