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Guys help 😭 my bf now that he’s made things official is completely acting sideways from the way we were in the ā€œtalking stageā€ I keep trying to talk to him about it and he’s so defensive and literally just turned his phone on DND to ignore my messages…
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Anonymous 5w

oh god…. many such cases. i think the relationship isn’t worth continuing tbh if he can’t even respect you and you’ve barely started it

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Anonymous 5w

I would say don’t text him for the rest of the night and wait until tomorrow to say, ā€œhey I’m giving you a chance right now to be honest with me and explain what you’re feeling and why you’ve been behaving like this.ā€ If he ignores you or keeps being defensive rather than just communicating, DUMP HIM

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 5w

He’s kinda known for in the morning trying to say ā€œoh I’m sorry for how I acted last nightā€ then saying Goodmorning and never actually finishing the conversation from the night before

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 5w

Sounds like he isn’t worth the drama at all. That’s definitely intentional behavior

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 5w

he’s trying to see how much he can get away with and how little attention he can give you and still have you want him. do not play that game!! if he was actually sorry for how he acted he wouldn’t act that way again

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 5w

The last thing he said before he put his phone on dnd was that he doesn’t know if he will be able to make me the priority that he wants to every day..

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 5w

oh that’s because he doesn’t WANT to make you a priority. he’s warning you now. believe me i’ve been trapped in relationships like this and you do not want it. it will never be good and you will always feel sad and it will absolutely tear down your self esteem. pls end it now and find someone who actually wants to be an active participant in a relationship<3

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 5w

if i’m honest it sounds like he wants a fwb more than he wants a girlfriend. but he wants to receive girlfriend benefits without giving you the boyfriend benefits

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Anonymous 5w

I’m saving myself for marriage and he knows and at least says he respects it… also just found out he has over 10 bodies tho which surprised me cause he was acting like his ex was the only one he’d had sex with

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 5w

What was the argument/discussion about??

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 5w

then maybe he doesn’t want a fwb, but he still wants girlfriend benefits without treating you like a girlfriend. he sounds like an overall dishonest man

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 5w

He’s been gone on 2 different retreats for the last 6 days (maybe talked to him for an hour over the whole 6 days) which I get it cause he was on retreat but when he got home today he took a 3 hour nap then went out with the boys he was on the retreat with and then got home from that and ignored me for another 2 hours so I asked him if he even still wanted to be together because I thought he’d want to actually talk to me since we hadn’t in almost a week

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 5w

Update: he broke up with me this morning šŸ‘šŸ»

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 5w

i’m sorry girl :( you will get through this but it will be tough. just give it time and be gracious with yourself<3

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 5w

I’m sorry that’s rough, at least you won’t waist your time

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