for context: we were just packing some boxes into the car and she put her hand on the back of mine to help put a box in (which i was clearly not struggling with) and when i recoiled and started scratching my skin (something i do as a coping response) she asked what was wrong and got very defensive when i told her why, saying she “didn’t even notice” that she touched me and that it wasn’t a big deal please let me know if i’m overreacting, i don’t know if it’s weird to be upset over