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Girl Talk 15w
I’m sorry but I’ve never understood living with your significant other if you’re not engaged or married? Like I honestly think it’s embarrassing when couples post that they lived together for this amount of years and then later break up…
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Anonymous 15w

the packing & moving argument is silly imo because that could also apply to any roommate situation, i don’t think you should make important life decisions based on if you may have to deal with a slight inconvenience for a couple weeks 💀 also the dynamic can change a lot when you live w someone. you learn a lot about them that way. it’s fine if you don’t think it’s necessary to do that, but a lot of people would rather learn those things before committing to marriage.

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Anonymous 15w

Same!!! Like living with a men for 14 years and no ring just seems crazy to me and they just broke up

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Anonymous 15w

And one of them has to literally pack everything and move to another place…the time, effort, money, etc..I just never understood it .

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Anonymous 15w

I could say though that a lot of people don’t want to involve the government in their relationship and see marriage as such especially with the contract but you could change it with a prenup

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Anonymous 15w

And I stated when they break up, one of them packs their things and leaves, not them together

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Anonymous 15w

I get where you’re coming from, but I personally believe living together should come after a serious commitment like marriage. To me, marriage is the time to figure out how to build a life together — not a test run beforehand. If the relationship isn’t solid enough without a “trial cohabitation,” is it really ready for marriage in the first place?

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Anonymous 15w

I get what you’re saying, but I see it differently. To me, marriage is the commitment that should come first — not something to test-drive. Every relationship has new dynamics at different stages, and living together is just one of them. I believe in building that stability and trust before sharing a home. But I still think it’s embarrassing

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Anonymous replying to -> pixiestix 15w

So then you’re roommates with your partner??? That doesn’t make any sense

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Anonymous 15w

That doesn’t have to do with living together tho…

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 15w

no i just brought up roommates bc you suggested one of the reasons to not live together is bc you might have to move out. you also eventually have to move out if you live with a roommate, but that’s not a reason to not live with a roommate, you know?

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 15w

Divorce can happen for a lot of reasons — lack of communication, different values, personal growth, etc. Just living together before marriage doesn’t guarantee you’ll avoid those issues. If anything, I think real commitment shows in how you handle those challenges, not in whether you tested out cohabitation first. Living together might show habits, but marriage tests a deeper level of love, patience, and unity.

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 15w

i guess what i’m trying to say is one of your reasons against living together was based on a hypothetical break up. but like even if you live together after marriage, you could hypothetically divorce and still have to move out. i do agree that you should only live together if you think a break up is unlikely and see yourself seriously heading for marriage.

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