Anonymous #1 7w

He’s told me he wants it to be a complete surprise. He told me when he drunk he wanted to do it around our two years and it’s coming up on it. But he’s been gaslighting me saying a few more years, but i know he’s lying to me, I know this man too well

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Anonymous OP 7w

I mean fair. As long as you’re down for this plan then just get excited, wedding Pinterest is so fun tbh

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Anonymous #1 7w

I haven’t even planned anything, I’ve never been a big wedding girl. I just want to have a cute proposal and then go to the court house and sign the papers a year or two later. But his family wants a big wedding, and most of them are catholic so it’s going to be so unbelievably long

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Anonymous OP 7w

Honestly fair, but if I can ask, what do you plan to do in the year or two before a courthouse wedding? So you just feel unready to tie the knot? No judgement either way, I’ve just found that people who want to wait want to plan and those that don’t usually want something simple to do it sooner. Valid whatever you’re thinking, but I am curious

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Anonymous OP 7w

*do you

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Anonymous #1 7w

I’ve always just wanted a longer engagement. We’ve actually recently agreed that I get longer engagement and he gets his big wedding that his family wants us to have. My only problem is that my family refuses to pay for anything wedding related so I have to come up with how to afford it by myself

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Anonymous OP 7w

Is he/his family not willing to pay?? Tbh if they want the big wedding it’s actually audacious for them to expect you to foot the whole bill that’s actually heinous

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Anonymous #1 7w

We’ll split it, my side of the family just refuses to pay so I have to figure out how I’m paying for my half of the bills for everything since typically the brides family pays for the venue, the dress, and catering

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Anonymous OP 7w

Still not equal, you’re the a whole family, you’re one person and they can’t demand a huge wedding knowing their all pitching in to make your man not pay and let you pay an exorbitant amount. Can I ask, are they ever nice to you?

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Anonymous #1 7w

That’s not what I’m saying. My boyfriend and his family are paying for part of it, my family agreed to help and then backed out saying that if I want it I have to pay for my side of everything. We’re in the talks with his family about what to do and how to split everything now, but with as big as his family is and how many people we’ll have everything is extremely pricey. Hinge why we’re having an extremely long engagement so I can save for everything I need to pay for

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Anonymous OP 7w

Adding onto this his family is extremely sweet and supportive towards me, I see them all pretty regularly, his mom and I are close, his father adores me, his grandmother begs me to come over and calls me to ask when I’m giving her grand babies and his aunts always invite me to wine tasting, dinners, and brunch!

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