Anonymous OP 5w

Well it’s a wonder you got me on here because I was in the same predicament for a year. Guess what?

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Anonymous #1 5w

I’m guessing you found a hobby group?

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Anonymous #1 5w

It literally gets so much better and it sucks feeling the way you do right now but it’s 100% solvable. It’s just a temporary situation. I got so depressed I thought it was impossible to make friends and I didn’t try, but the reason I didn’t have friends is because I didn’t try. Now since I struggled at first to implement productive changes and exempt things that make me unhappy, life got so enjoyable

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Anonymous #1 5w

don’t let a temporary situation keep you from something good. It may take a little more effort right now, but there are ways that you can change your situation. Humans need attention to function. You’re not a pick me for talking to someone. That’s normal.

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Anonymous OP 5w

Well I started roller skating in cheap skates with weird music.

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Anonymous #1 5w

Yea so in relation, if we go about the exempting things. What truly triggered me the most was that for like 7-8 years now as much as I try to plan, or ask, hint at, literally be direct abt a surprise I want, or nothing at all. My birthday goes uncelebrated and I’m left alone every year even if I planned a party.m or reservation. Atp I’m removing you from my life. It got a bit happier but also deeply sadder and lonelier. And now I have no one, and I am trying. I have “acquaintances” at best

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Anonymous OP 5w

Same. Due to my family dynamic, I’m alone for holidays and every celebration. I would love for someone to put that effort into me, but I don’t expect them to. If you feel a since of entitlement it becomes transactional. Solitude can be a time of growth if you allow it to be. You can change anything you want about yourself right now, so when you get a new opportunity to meet the people who will celebrate you every chance they get, you’re ready

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Anonymous #1 5w

And yes I do things, like I’ll bring my laptop to my favorite cafe where the staff at this point knows my order. I’ll sit for like an hour, not looking too busy. I go to the gym. I go jogging and walking elsewhere. I sit at parks at just read or go on my phone. I smile and compilment, do basic acts of kindness, I’m recognized for sure. But no friendship building convo or environment. And now someone said “I post a lot” when I don’t think 0-10 MAX snaps a day(the only media I use) is a lot so -

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Anonymous #1 5w

It is a hard thing to do, but so worth it.

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Anonymous OP 5w

Oh boo that, you can post whatever the fuck you want. People who keep count of your post are weird. You’re living life and so are they. They’re the weird ones. I think you’re in a funk and maybe something like a road trip over the weekend or just an outing you don’t normally do would be beneficial. Just something different

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Anonymous OP 5w

- from that point on yesterday, I felt like an annoyance bc I don’t talk to anyone or have a space to share my day or thoughts so I’ll post to a private 20 person story of ppl in my past but also have been made aware they skip tf outta it so. And ik im “annoying” for having a lot of thoughts I want to share. But wonder why am I annoying?

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Anonymous #1 5w

I did, the comment was abt my personal day trip to the beach. Which I don’t normally do bc it’s a lot of time, gas, and money to be doing and carrying so much stuff by myself it doesn’t feel worth it. The only form of entertainment I had was posting the very few things I did. It was mainly just tanning, listening to music, and walking the same shore for like 8 hours.

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Anonymous OP 5w

You’re not annoying. I ended up journaling. You have an active mind and that’s a good trait to have. They’re not your people, so make room for new people. Tons of people like to hear randomness from others because it’s entertaining. They don’t, but maybe 100 others do.

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Anonymous OP 5w

Bring a kite, volleyball, build a sand castle, think of randomness and do it. That’s what life’s about.

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Anonymous #1 5w

I started doing my snaps but saving them and just never posting them lately for a few months when I tried to be more “mysterious” like idk. I think only 20 ppl is enough to see me in a certain light that I control. And that person wasn’t even part of the damn 20 idk their problem. Journaling never really hit for me

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Anonymous OP 5w

There are innumerable things that are fun that you’ve exempted yourself from because of the mindset you have here. You’re only saying the one thing you do is entertaining but aren’t trying other things to do. Of course it gets boring if you don’t branch out

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Anonymous OP 5w

Well we’re most likely in our 20s and this time is for figuring out who we are, who we want around, and how to live. It’s not easy at all but you have so much freedom to do anything you want within the confines of your life. People like the ones you’re focusing on literally have no real significance

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Anonymous #1 5w

You’re right, I feel my issue is I used to do some things with people. Or I just feel it’s worth the money and time to make a full plan just for myself like a friend and I could. Aside from there actually not being much to do here and being voted the most boring town in the state. The only young person entertainment I see is 1 of 2 bars here or the person will post them and their group out doing activities like hiking, game rooms, sports events, parties. I can’t really do that as a lone woman-

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Anonymous OP 5w

Do you have to go out to have fun? Do some shit like buy $40 roller skates and skate around

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Anonymous OP 5w

-without some lingering fear or potential serious harm. I’ll go to a bar for sure, I have been with others in the past. (These mfs always forced me to be dd so I never even got drunk which is also like, I wanna get messed up and idk LIVE.) I maybe danced, never let loose. Let the liquid confidence do its thing. Or going into the city is just a huge ordeal to attend an event alone, walking the streets and granges by myself bc trains cut after 10. It’s not safe. Only day, public.

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Anonymous OP 5w

Imagine what someone whimsical would be doing in the 1800s and do it. What would Cher do? What would you do if you were Cher? Do everything that comes to mind that’s legal

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Anonymous #1 5w

The whimsical stuff I already kinda do. Farmers market every Sunday, buy my usual items, sit and watch the music, grab a coffee. Other days I try to read smth. I have clay or I have my markers. I kinda sew and mend when I need too. I collect caterpillars and release butterflies. Like I do have hobbies. Even the gym. It’s just hobbies aren’t really social things unless you find your way into a group that’s a group based activity like DnD (not for me I tried🤢)

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Anonymous OP 5w

You are blessed beyond compare and I love your life. It looks so peaceful. Take a moment to observe it

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Anonymous #1 5w

You’ve high key been a big help. Really mommas

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Anonymous OP 5w

Of course!! I really appreciate that

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