Girl Talk on Yik Yak | Can’t be friends w/ women who have little self respect. He cheated on you? Leave him. He’s disrespectful? Leave him. ‘I can’t.’ Okay then don’t talk to me cuz that’s weird AF. I find it hard to stay friends w/ women who have no capacity for logic.

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Can’t be friends w/ women who have little self respect. He cheated on you? Leave him. He’s disrespectful? Leave him. ‘I can’t.’ Okay then don’t talk to me cuz that’s weird AF. I find it hard to stay friends w/ women who have no capacity for logic.

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Anonymous 1d

When my brother & his gf had been together for like… 6 months she found his journal where he wrote that he doesn’t rlly like her, can’t see a future with her, is using her as a rebound and only rlly likes the attention she gives him. They’ve been together for 6yrs now and whenever she complains about him I find it really difficult to feel bad cause you could’ve gotten out EARLY

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Anonymous 1d

It’s not even that they claim they can’t leave it’s that the “can’t” is something easily fixable and they still won’t. No where to go? Come crash at mine or another friend’s place. He’s dependent on you? He’s an adult he can figure it out.

Anonymous 1d

lol it’s usually not about logic

Anonymous 1d

my friend got back with her bf who broke up with her when they were living together and i genuinely lost respect for her

Anonymous 1d

thank you. its exhausting. i try to be supportive and empathetic but it does get to a point where its self inflicted bc they wont do anything to change the situation or take any advice. like oh ok then girl, you got it. we can be friends but dont call my phone about a problem i presented solutions too the last 15 times we talked about it.

Anonymous 1d

like i agree but i do feel like there’s more to it than that

Anonymous 1d

#3 just gave us a first hand rationale of a bird brain. Wow

Anonymous 1d

Hey so some women are in unsafe situations actually

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Anonymous 1d

You obviously never been truly deeply in love with someone

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Anonymous

#3 1d

neither have you bc if you were, you wouldn’t be treated like this. someone who loves you doesn’t cheat or disrespect you

Anonymous

#7 1d

Mistakes happen and this post logic is actually how girls end up in unsafe relationships. If a girl cannot talk to her friend about her boyfriend bc all they do is tell her to leave him instead of hearing her out or offering support, then she will simply stop telling them. Which leaves her isolated and only brings her and the man closer.

Anonymous

#7 1d

Also I’m currently single. But yes I was in love with a man who didn’t treat me well at one time

Anonymous

#3 1d

i’m so confused where in this post does she say her friends can’t talk to her? the support IS telling her to leave him, offering a place to stay if she needs one, a shoulder to cry on after the break up… i really don’t want to assume anything so what would be your alternative?

Anonymous

#7 1d

also as someone who’s been on both sides of this, there’s nothing wrong with setting boundaries. ik my friends were sick to DEATH of me complaining about the same things over and over again and honestly them telling me that was a wake up call that i had to make actual change in my own life if i wanted it to improve. obviously not every situation is like that but sometimes the people who genuinely care about you do need to be honest about their own feelings

Anonymous

#7 1d

You should never tell someone they should break up with their partner. That is highly disrespectful. How could they ever feel comfortable talking to you about the relationship after that?

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Anonymous

#3 1d

if someone beats the fuck outta you i’d say the beater is more disrespectful than the person encouraging that person to leave

Anonymous

#3 1d

girl u can only tolerate hearing so much delusion from someone about their shit relationship. it comes to a point

Anonymous

#9 1d

That’s not a toxic relationship tho that’s domestic violence and obviously not what we are talking about??

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Anonymous

#3 1d

you says “you should never tell someone they should break up with your partner.” don’t speak in definitives and i won’t bring up extreme circumstances.

Anonymous

#9 1d

you said*

Anonymous

#3 1d

this is a genuine question but do you think when i say you should tell your friend to break up im like. being cruel about it? or putting her down? yeah it’s not a NICE thing to hear but a lot of times it’s necessary, especially if she’s not being treated right. what’s disrespectful about saying she deserves better?

Anonymous

#7 1d

fr being nice about it for so long is only gonna feed their delusion.

Anonymous

#7 1d

Because at the end of the day they LOVE that person. Do you not understand how serious love is? They probably care about white boyfriend more than you or atleast I would hope so. If she lets him treat her badly she problem loves him more than herself. So yes it is very insensitive. Nobody wants to hear they deserve better, that’s common sense that you deserve better. At the end of the day when you love someone like that you’re not going to care about that if it never gets better.

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Anonymous

#7 1d

And you shouldn’t just leave someone so easily. I’m not dating someone unless I want to marry them I’m not going to leave them until I fight with everything in me to improve things

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Anonymous

#5 1d

You’re calling their love a delusion and asking how that’s disrespectful? We’re speaking different languages here

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Anonymous

#3 1d

Just because you love them doesn’t mean you have self respect. This is about self respect, not whether you love them the guy or not. If you keep putting yourself in a situation where you KNOW you will continue to hurt, I cannot be friends with you because it means you don’t care about yourself enough

Anonymous

#3 1d

okay we clearly have very different opinions and experiences with valuing romantic love above… everything else it seems? which is a very unhealthy way to go through life. you should never love someone more than you love yourself. again, i know it’s not NICE to hear you should break up, but if my friend isn’t being treated right im not just going to sit there and let it happen bc “oh well she’s in love so it’s okay” no! absolutely not! that’s how toxic relationships turn abusive!

Anonymous

#3 1d

there’s a big difference bw mistakes/misunderstandings and disrespect. when you start tolerating even small acts of disrespect, you’re inadvertently encouraging that behavior bc they don’t see anything wrong w that and shit just gets worse over time. idt OP is one of those friends who’ll jump at any chance to tell you to dump them without offering any other kind of support or encouraging you to approach it as a ‘us against the problem’ thing w your partner instead of thinking in extremes (1/?)

Anonymous

#6 1d

That's insane is he still just stringing her along after 6 years 😭

Anonymous

#10 1d

this is about when you’ve done everything to support your friend but they’re still not respecting themselves enough to walk away and continuing to put themselves in a position that’ll hurts them more in the long run. i’ve been on both sides here and have tolerated too much bs in the past despite my friends trying to talk some sense into me but now that i don’t struggle w self esteem as much and am in a healthy relationship, i see exactly why ts was so frustrating for them (2/?)

Anonymous

#10 1d

i’m grateful they still stuck around but it does get exhausting and futile after a point. i have some friends who continue to tolerate disrespect until things get to a breaking point and that’s when they finally see where i was coming from. so when you see someone repeating that pattern over and over without any improvement, it’s you’re just like “why do i even bother atp”. i personally wouldn’t stop being friends just bc of that but i’d draw a boundary when it comes to relationship advice (3/3)

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Anonymous

#12 1d

There’s a huge difference between being in an unsafe situation and refusing to leave someone you complain about constantly

Anonymous

#12 1d

some not most, and this post clearly isnt abt them

Anonymous

#3 1d

yeah no my friend is in love with someone who takes pics of random girls and jacks off to them so I’m not supporting that shit

Anonymous

#13 1d

EWWW what does your friend even see in him 😭

Anonymous

#11 1d

They live together and he’s supporting her through school but like… the house she helped put a down payment on is fully 100% in his name. They seem to have worked everything out atp 😭

Anonymous

#3 23h

Oh helllll nooo