pinky.bear on Yik Yak | Putting so much effort into effective communication just to receive NOTHING back has me wanting to bite the curb cuz what do you mean I beared my soul, told him how I was feeling and what I needed and his response is “I’m still not gonna apologize 😐”

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girlboard 12w

pinky.bear

Putting so much effort into effective communication just to receive NOTHING back has me wanting to bite the curb cuz what do you mean I beared my soul, told him how I was feeling and what I needed and his response is “I’m still not gonna apologize 😐”

Anonymous 12w

🔪 him hope this helps!! 🥰

Anonymous 12w

anytime I tell someone how I feel about what they did, they defect blame and bring up stuff I’ve done that’s upset them.. that apparently they’ve been holding onto for this very moment:/ Always ends up being me that apologizes and they get away without taking any accountability

Anonymous 12w

girlllllll what happened

Anonymous 12w

That should just confirm that he’s not the right one for you and that your standards are higher.

Anonymous 12w

Babe I’m going through a very similar issue with my man. We’ve been together 6 years and he will not listen!!! I tell him word for word step by step what I need and it doesn’t happen. Mine will never change so I’m leaving. I don’t know your full situation but know your worth and know you deserve to be heard and respected by your partner more than anyone else!!!

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Anonymous

#1 12w

Basically he hurt my feelings and when I explained it to him and said I wanted an apology, he said that he didn’t think he’d done anything wrong and wasnt going to say sorry. This was about a week ago and we’ve since worked it out with him apologizing and promising to do better. We rarely have disagreements but when we do it’s usually because he’s not listening to me, even when I’m telling him exactly how to fix the problem 🙄🙄

Anonymous

pinky.bear 12w

girl…. you deserve bettee

Anonymous

#1 12w

better*

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Anonymous

#2 12w

I want to try couples counseling first 🫣 we’ve been together for about 4 years and have a dog. Things are usually very good and we love each other but he’s autistic and his communication style is heavily based on his parents toxic relationship and that’s the only kind of relationship he really knows. He is aware of this and we’re working on it but it’s easier said than done. I know it sounds like I’m making excuses for him but I have told him point blank if he wants to keep me he needs to try

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Anonymous

#1 12w

Finding better is the problem though. He’s 85% perfect and i believe that relationships require effort to work from both sides to work. There is no man out there that is my 100%, my standards are way too high. So I settle for 85% and help him improve to about 90%. I wish he’d just make more of an effort to communicate and listen. That would be my 100%. But I have worked out secret plans on how to get sole custody of our dog if/when I leave. 🤫

Anonymous

pinky.bear 12w

love that u set boundaries. 💕

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Anonymous

#6 12w

I’m so sorry babe, I know that must be so hard. All that time and work just for him to never make the effort. I’m proud of you for putting your foot down! I hope you don’t feel like you wasted too much time with him. Now you’re open for bigger and better opportunities! I’ll be right there with you one day if mine doesn’t learn to listen

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pinky.bear 12w

Out of the 6 years we were together I have millions of wonderful memories that I’ll cherish forever. But those memories don’t cancel out the current issues. I don’t see it as time waisted just time I spent learning about myself and what I want in life and a relationship