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why do guys always pick someone else, am i doing things wrong?? I hate the constant state of comparing myself to others and checking for people who aren’t checking for me.. what can i do to stop? i feel like i need to kill this version of myself🫩
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Anonymous 20h

This might not be helpful and it’s corny/easier said than done but.. the key is to shut down the voice in your head that makes comparisons between you and other people. Like personally I have compromised my values & changed my personality/interests for men in the past and I regret it a lot, and wish I’d just sat and waited for the right person instead of molding myself into what I thought men wanted.. the grass is always greener & it’s not always a good thing to get “picked”

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Anonymous 1d

one of my friends got told one summer by a girl that lead him on for months that she didn’t see him as someone she’d date romantically and the next summer he was with a girl he’s now been with for 3 years. there’s nothing wrong with you, that person just isn’t your person.

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 1d

if there’s things you may notice about yourself like maybe you’re not a good listener, take long to text back, you criticize and judge people, don’t open up, i could see you improving stuff like that. but it would suck to change who you are, like your interests and things that make you who you are for someone who’s not truly interested in understanding and accepting you.

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 1d

Thank you love i think that’s exactly what I need to do, just improve the things I don’t like about myself to not feel a certain way when guys choose other girls or if things don’t go the way I would like them to or plan for them to

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 22h

my first long term relationship started when I was 18 😭 I literally thought I was broken or something because guys and girls would always lead me on but never date me and would always choose someone else. It can take a while to find someone for you but it will happen as long as you don’t lose hope and don’t become bitter to love 💗

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Anonymous replying to -> #3 9h

You’re 100% right I think it’s the waiting that the hardest part but I’m just going to try to put the energy that I gave them back into myself

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 9h

You’re right and I try to not let what others do make me change the way my heart is and I think that’s why I am feeling the way that I am feeling

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