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I’m AuDHD, Bipo, BDP with bad anxiety. I’ve masked my …quirky-ness from my bf for 5 years. I started letting it out bc I’m happier now but he was getting annoyed. I told him he’s my best friend so if I’m bouncy it’s out of love and he understood me! 🥹
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Anonymous 3w

babe I fear that’s bare minimum

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Anonymous 3w

You shouldn’t have to mask for 5 years in a relationship!

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 3w

Yeah but it still made me happy.

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 3w

Kinda like how it is when queer people come out the closet. I’m not saying being neurodivergent is exactly like being queer, but when you have acted a certain way to maintain a relationship, the second you mention there will be a change or expose them to something new you are opening the door for further connection. It means a lot to me that he understands that I’m a little off center.

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 3w

I’m assuming it is obvious I’m not completely coherent in certain context, but I’m getting to a state of happiness instead of stress, fear and confusion. Ive been so stressed and lonely the past few years and I’m getting out of that funk. Now I am hyper, I go to mess with him more and stuff. He asked why and I explained it’s actually a good thing despite him lowkey being annoyed, he understood that it’s just a personality quirk, didn’t judge me or insult me. I appreciate that a lot.

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 3w

I am used to people using my emotions, my disabilities, or quirks against me to villainize me. He did not do that. He reassured me he loved me, and didn’t discuss it further. 🥹 I am allowed to celebrate the small things, even if I knows that’s what he’s supposed to do anyway.

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 3w

You’re right, that is a win. Where I was coming from though is that you shouldn’t have to mask in a relationship in the first place let alone for five years

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 3w

It’s not HIS fault , it’s mine. I was raised to be ashamed of myself bc people used it as an excuse to insult me,

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 3w

I was in between a lot of stress with everything. I’ve learned to mask as a way to keep the peace but when we live together now that’s not such an easy thing to do anymore.

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 3w

Not his fault, mine bc I was afraid to let him in that close bc I’m a little weirdo in a pretty body. 🤣

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 3w

I see. Girl you can do this.

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