the more muscle you have the more cals you burn at rest (higher metabolism), so the best way to lose weight and keep it off is building muscle. and you can’t get bulky unless you’re trying to! i lift heavy(ish) 3x a week and do light strength/mobility the other days. & cardio everyday and i’ve leaned out & lost a lot of fat!
i literally had the same thing 😭 how i got over binge eating was just fueling my body correctly. like purposefully waking up and having protein, healthy fats, carbs, etc. for every meal. when i stayed consistent with that i stopped craving other stuff because my body has what it needs
it is true for most people to some extent. it depends on your preference for muscle mass (if it's low, you'll get "too bulky" quickly just because you think bulky is any amount of muscle) and whether you're in a surplus (extra fat = extra bulk, and people blame that on the lifting instead of their diet). gaining muscle is a slow process and will not happen by accident, though