Anonymous #7 7w

why do men

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Anonymous #10 7w

Calorie deficit

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Anonymous #19 7w

why do men p2

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Anonymous #12 7w

NOOO don’t imply she’s better for improving herself, cause then by comparison i’m worse it’s all about meeeeee

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Anonymous #7 7w

what does this even mean

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Anonymous #12 7w

Jokic going 52nd overall

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Anonymous #17 7w

no that’s not my issue with it. i’m all for improvement. just hate when ppl objectify women, that’s all.

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Anonymous #12 7w

yup!

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Anonymous #12 7w

Objectify and sexualize are the most commonly misunderstood and misused words in our society right now. Hoping for social commentary on this topic in the future

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Anonymous #19 7w

you invest in objects, not people. especially in this context.

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Anonymous #12 7w

I get the point you’re trying to make, but let’s be real we absolutely invest in people. That’s what relationships, friendships, and community are all about. The issue isn’t investment, it’s why you’re investing. If it’s for genuine connection and mutual growth, that’s healthy

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Anonymous #29 7w

but that’s not their intention when they say this, that’s why i said “especially in this context”

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And 12 wasn’t replying to you😭 no one is on the same page here 😂😭😭

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Anonymous #12 7w

I understand, but just to play devils advocate here why on earth would you invest in someone that doesn’t meet your standard?

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Anonymous #12 7w

Brother in Christ you’re looking to be upset over something. “You invest in objects”. Bro look at your claim 😭😭

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Anonymous #29 7w

imo using the term invest just makes it feel like it’s transactional rather than an actual relationship. also the context of men online frequently using it to objectify women and only value them for their “potential hotness” like they’re not a real human being

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Anonymous #30 7w

this right here. thank you. people seem to forget that i’m the same girl from a year ago they’re deeming unworthy

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Anonymous #30 7w

I hear you and I’m not saying you’re wrong, but I would like to point out that to some degree human relationships are not devoid of expectation and preference. If I could just choose a human without my taste in women getting involved I’d be married by now, but I have to find one who meets 3 specific criteria. Character, attractiveness, and ambition. If she falls short in any one of these it would be unwise to pursue her.

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Anonymous #29 7w

And the reason the word “invest” works here is because those three attributes (excluding attractiveness) should only grow. Beauty fades as we get older so attractiveness is excluded, but character and ambition should (in a healthy relationship) grow over time. A complacent person stops investing in themselves (key word) when they get what they want

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Anonymous #29 7w

it’s completely fine to have preferences, but hiding behind a screen telling someone they weren’t worth the investment beforehand is still pretty rude. yes i may not have been skinny, but that doesn’t deem me worthless

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Anonymous OP 7w

No it certainly doesn’t deem you worthless and if anyone has ever told you that I hope you know it was never true. The only thing is if I don’t have the qualification…I can’t expect to get the position. As badly as I want to work for nasa if I never get an engineering degree I’ll probably never get the job. Similarly, if I never work on myself…I’ll probably never land the woman of my dreams. Cest la vie🤷🏻‍♂️

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Anonymous OP 7w

This is a nuanced topic and is far deeper than what meets the eye as well as what we can discuss here on yik yak. I would like to harp on this though; you should be proud of yourself for the progress you’ve made. I know I am and I don’t even know you. Keep on the grind 💪🏻

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Anonymous #33 7w

honestly, i got a personal trainer who i trained with twice a week for a half hour. i would have issues with giving up on myself so having that person to hold me accountable did wonders. he had me log everything into my fitness pal, which he was able to see. having a PT helped me get comfortable in the gym as well in nutrition. on top of that, i made a lot of friends in my gym which helped with the motivation of going.

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Anonymous #33 7w

with food, i always made sure to eat the entirety of my protein first. when i craved something sweet i would eat this clio protein bars. its like greek yogurt coated in a thin layer of chocolate and it is a god send.

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Anonymous #33 7w

but, i still ate a lot of the foods i wanted. i knew if i were to restrict myself entirely i would fall off. so if i wanted a cookie i ate a cookie, if i wanted pizza i got it. it’s kind of controversial but i think as long as you do it in moderation it’s fine.

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Anonymous #33 7w

i hope that made sense, feel free to DM me if you want to keep talking!

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Anonymous #40 7w

Go be a weirdo somewhere else

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Anonymous #23 7w

i’ve changed a lot of things over the past year, but it was just a lil push pull leg split my PT and I came up with. Every few months we’d substitute some of the exercises out to create some variety

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Anonymous #42 7w

AHH THANK YOU!

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