Anonymous #1 10w

Hopefully after our interaction today he realizes that is a TERRIBLE way to go about it💀😂

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Anonymous #2 10w

That’s so annoying that you have to go so far as lying to get a man to leave you alone. I refuse to play the boyfriend card unless I feel legitimately threatened because I am going to MAKE YOU respect my decision to say no.

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Anonymous #1 10w

Men need to listen to less podcasts 😂

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Anonymous #4 10w

to be clear i’ve never hit up a woman at the gym i honestly think that’s the absolute wrong environment, however it is challenging how we’re both expected to initiate and absolutely fried for doing so if we’re not perceived as perfect

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Anonymous #4 10w

“Hey! *cute small talk pertaining to the activity* so, I think you’re really pretty, is there any way I could get your number? No? That’s alright! I hope you have a great rest of your day!” Rejection absolutely sucks but handling it well shows maturity and THATS attractive

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Anonymous #3 10w

you’d think that but then you hear things like “i wouldve given him my number if he put some pressure but i said no once and he walked away like what” (story from a friend of mine) and it’s a bit confusing :/

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Anonymous #4 10w

I think those are just women who want to be chased. And I don’t think most are actually like that. When I am repeatedly saying “I’m not dating right now” “I’m not interested” and straight up “no” it should be obvious that I don’t want you to persist

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Anonymous #4 10w

I also think it’s crappy of women to expect any man to continue to go chase after her when she already said no. It gives the wrong idea and almost seems like taking advantage of someone’s interest in you just for some attention.

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Anonymous #4 10w

That’s on her then and she should learn from that. In general, women don’t want men to push. I personally haven’t heard a woman say she wants a man to push when he’s asking her out. (Not saying there aren’t women out there like that!)

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Anonymous #3 10w

maybe i just have the wrong female friends, but ive heard it more times than any other perspective. from women, not men speaking for women.

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Anonymous #4 10w

OP’s post is clearly about her saying no and feeling uncomfortable not a woman that wants to be chased. I think if ur a grown man, u need to be able to tell when ur making a woman uncomfortable and back off. If she’s the sort to play hard to get, it’s should be obvious to u bc she’s still showing interest

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Anonymous #4 10w

I think ur confusing the two

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Anonymous #2 10w

the entire point is the lack of clarity. 3 and OP seem to understand the nuance here

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Anonymous #4 10w

I think if ur a dude that hears “sorry IM not interested” and you’re still not clear, that’s an issue. I’d love to see the sources u mentioned tho

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Anonymous #4 10w

Despite what your female friends say, I would still approach a situation like that or ANY situation with no means absolutely no. You never want to make anyone uncomfortable. Like 3 said, I personally have never heard another woman in my life saying she wants men to persist after saying no. So I think it is much less common than you are lead to believe.

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Anonymous OP 10w

oh dw i quit approaching women in public years ago the ROI is below the floor. DMs are 10000x better, have landed me way more dates, and give a way easier way for girls to reject you (never answering) without being afraid of how you’ll react

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Anonymous #3 10w

People need to make fewer podcasts honestly, almost none of them have any value

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Anonymous OP 10w

and also, why would you as a man want to date someone who plays those games?

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