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As a man, how do I get good at pleasing a woman? I've only been with 3 partners and they all like different things, 2 of those were seeing other men at the same time and they gave them better sex, so they didn't continue seeing me.

Anonymous 1d

Each girl I've been with only lets me have sex one time because they are seeing multiple guys and they fuck better so I'm out after the first one. I'm a huge romantic, I love eating out. I read books and such on the topic and listen to what women have to say but if I only get one shot per person and everyone's different how do I know how to be perfect?

Anonymous 1d

Gotta get really good with your hands and mouth if what you got ain’t enough, and you gotta be a giver. If you’re not making her finish atleast 3-4 times she’ll just find better somewhere else. Or just get in a real relationship instead of hookups if you can’t really compete

Anonymous 10h

Honestly, look up stuff explaining women's orgasms. There's not just the clit. Fingering-wise, there's areas inside like the G spot, A spot that also feel really good. Hell- nipples. Dont be afraid to gently graze your teeth or bite a little. I dont know exactly what goes on for you, it sounds like you do enough foreplay from your words, so just try to keep a rhythm. Every person is slightly different but you can typically adjust based on their breathing.

Anonymous

OP 1d

You ask them what theyre into individually

Anonymous

#2 1d

I do, we have very through talks about kinks, what's okay, what they like, ect before even starting.

Anonymous

#1 1d

My equipment is more than enough I've been told... the issue is sex is different for each person and each person only lets me have sex with them once, I don't really get a second shot. I'm only having sex maybe once a year so it's difficult to improve

Anonymous

OP 1d

Well I can tell you I’m not bullshiting you brother, I have pretty regular sex and rearly only once with someone. And I’m not trying to flex I’m just saying that so you know I’m not larping. Ya sex is different for everyone but sometimes overthinking it and trying to be perfect kills the natural flow. You needa master the basics before you try to be the perfect partner for every person individually. You get a second hookup by being good at the stuff everyone likes

Anonymous

#1 1d

You can't really master the basics if you only get 20 minutes per person. You sound like a dude who lives in NYC and fucks regularly. Not everyone has access like that

Anonymous

#1 1d

I meet maybe 1 girl per year. It sounds like you meet hundreds. I don't think we're in the same position respectfully mate. Yes I go out very frequently

Anonymous

OP 1d

Oh I think “20 mins” might be the problem actually, no shade, I’ve just never been with a girl who actually wants to be done that quick

Anonymous

#1 1d

Dude they don't let me continue? I'd obviously go for hours if I could...

Anonymous

OP 1d

No one sleeps with hundreds of girls even in big city’s, I’m just trying to tell you what to focus on when you get that chance so it’s not just a one time thing

Anonymous

#1 1d

Okay. What I be focusing on if not eating pussy right, good fingering techniques, how to kiss? Because that's what I've been trying and learning.

Anonymous

#1 1d

I don't want to be done that quick. They do. It's late and they are tired. I've had some shitty experiences.

Anonymous

OP 1d

Please don’t think I’m trying to insult you cause I’m not I’m just being real, but if they are telling you they are done after 20 mins and don’t meet up with you again it’s cause they’re not satisfied and don’t wanna keep having sex with you, that or you’ve somehow been extremely unlucky

Anonymous

#1 1d

Yeah... no shit they aren't satisfied. They don't give me the chance to learn though😭 I try so hard. I really don't know what to do anymore. By the time I meet someone again I'm gonna be ass at sex

Anonymous

OP 1d

It seems like you are being too mechanical about it, reading books and knowing the theory doesn’t matter if she’s not turned on before you’re down there. Knowing how to talk them up and have good foreplay instead of interrogating them about what they like is a good first step

Anonymous

#1 1d

I'm not really good at talking I'm pretty autistic and awkward. I'm pretty good at foreplay I've been told though. I usually spend an hour on that

Anonymous

#3 10h

You dont have to perfect. It's possible you were doing really well, and they just all decided to go with their usual partners because its what they are used to. It might not be a reflection on your abilites. It's gonna sound like shit advice but stop worrying about how sex is different for everyone. Maybe it's just me but that's the fun part about it. Everyone has their own likes and dislikes. Embrace that, man. I dont mean to sound rude but maybe go for someone who doesnt have other partners?

Anonymous

#3 10h

That's exactly what I've been doing I've read a LOT. My anti depressants make it hard to be 100% so unless I know a week ahead of time penetration is somewhat off the table. Obviously they don't like to plan like that. I've still made my partners orgasm with my hands and mouth but I don't really get a second shot and so far it's always been late at night.

Anonymous

#3 10h

I didn't know they were seeing other people until after we had sex, at the time I was dating them, like going on dates and moving into being exclusive. Most girls I talk to have several guys they are going on dates with or hooking up with so I don't have many options. I meet maybe 1 girl a year if I'm lucky and put in a ton of effort. 😅

Anonymous

#3 10h

You just sound really worried about not being as good as someone else, so maybe taking another partner out of the equation would help? It limits women who may be interested for sure, but I know it can help. If not that then make sure she's communicating her wants back as much as you are communicating yours.

Anonymous

OP 10h

Yeah, it's definitely hard out there, but trust that you got this man. If I can get a girl (which I have), you can, okay?

Anonymous

#3 10h

Well, again I wasn't aware she was seeing other people until after. It wasn't really my choice. If I had known she was talking to someone else I wouldn't have slept with her. She knew that. Yeah they usually do communicate pretty well I think. I think a few bad experiences have just traumatized me