the fact that this conversation would even shift to mental health instead of criminalizing the perpetrators is frankly sickening. we always talk about locking up rapists and not enough of them are put to justice. however the same language is not brought into question for the women who put these men through this torturous hell
hereās the thing. you donāt disprove the rule. iām speaking in a general manner because i canāt tailor my speech for every individual person on yikyak. i think every man in this world can viscerally understand this pain. and men who hurt themselves didnāt bottle it up, they tried to reach out and had nowhere to go. but i find it revolting and frankly disgusting to not demonize women who do this in the same way we demonize rapists
false accusations are rare but when they do happen, the woman is in the wrong. no one denies that. you can care about both, but one happens far more often and with deadlier consequences. if a woman lies, she should be held accountable. however, equating that to the amount of women who have been harmed, silenced, or not believed about what happened to them makes it seem like youāre more interested in blaming women than addressing real issues
also i do care about the men who have had their lives (professional and personal) destroyed after a false accusation. itās tragic and my heart goes out to them, and the women who do lie, should definitely face consequences. just because i care about one topic, doesnāt mean i donāt care about the other. thatās not how empathy or accountability works
ok hold up. nobody here is saying that rape is good or anything like that. I dont know a single man who is in favor of rape and thinks is good. NOT ONE. but i donāt see enough discussion for the men who are accused falsely(even if not to the police) and have their reputation tattered and isolated. I donāt think you understand or frankly care about the emotional anguish a man goes through to have something like that said about him when he is innocent. The isolation he feels.
the feeling that nobody believes him. that nobody cares about him. I find it interesting that most women report feeling āisolated and alone and donāt feel like anyone believes thatā and everyone shows empathy and compassion( as they very much should) but when a man is in the same suffering and pain, nobody really cares. thereās a reason that most falsely accused men who kill themselves(and yes they actually happen a lot) are barely reported in the media
you're right, there isn't enough discussion. but you can't assume what people do and don't care about. exhibit a: you don't know me, nor my values and knowledge. the central park 5 was one of the most tragic cases of false imprisonment i've ever heard of. so i do understand and care. we can and should support both truths.
but instead of framing it as āwomen get empathy and men donātā, why not ask why we live in a society that teaches men to bottle up pain and sees vulnerability as a weakness? thatās not a woman problem, itās a systemic one. if men are committing suicide after being falsely accused, thatās a failure of mental health support and the stigma around male pain