
Body count is, by definition, a social construct. Virginity was just created a few thousand years ago by old men who thought their penis was so important, it changed a young girl forever. Those same men thought that a woman’s body could only handle one penis her whole life. Body count is absolutely a human-made concept with no basis in biology.
Its a social construct because it relies on certain societal perceptions of sex. Like what do you consider sexual emotional to count for a body count?? Making out? hand stuff? oral? penetration? Everyone has a different idea of what counts so unless you establish that every time it comes up, when you share body count with someone you may be understanding it very differently than them. Doesn’t mean you can’t use it as a way to communicate your experiences, but it is not a tangible defined thing
in very simple terms it’s a social construct because for someone it’s gonna count if you had phone sex, for someone its gonna count if there was only some sexual activity wo penetration and for somebody it’s gonna only count with penetration. there’s no “scientific” way to measure body count = people define its borders = it’s what was constructed by society
I assure you that among queer people (especially the wlw) it is very common for people to not consider penetration necessary to lose one’s virginity. In fact, the 1,000 question rice purity test defines homosexual sex without penetration, “We would also like to define having sex in the homosexual case; homosexual sex has occurred when both partners are of the same sex and one partner has an orgasm while there is some contact between the genitals of both partners.”
If someone had sex by scissoring or frotting and/or fingering or handjob and/or oral, would they include that person in their body count even tho there’s no penetration. Like if someone told you their body count is 0 and you later learned they’ve been doing all of that would you think they were wrong about the 0 body count???