Idrk, he was in the military, i assume it was something w the need to be a manly man clashing with his desire to be taken care of in a submissive way, maybe he didnt process it fully. Idk abt being into subs, like im a switch, i prefer other genuine switches, yes riding is fun but like damn… not after work, know when the time and place is to be sub/dom and we’ll be good