Anonymous #1 5w

Like what??

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Anonymous #2 5w

Don’t hookup or hookup with ppl u r ok with

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Anonymous #1 5w

She was hooking up w someone she was okay w until he pulled this fuck shit😭 she did her due diligence vetting this guy. Also, abstinence as a form of harm reduction does nothing, realistically, either

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Anonymous #2 5w

Wdym does nothing realistically?

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Anonymous #1 5w

U can tell people not to have sex till your face turns blue but abstinence does nothing to stop predators from being predators

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Anonymous #2 5w

Yea but you lower your chance of meeting a predator lol… just be mindful of who you’re meeting

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Anonymous #1 5w

This story is literally a prime example that you can do everything right and still get scorned. Sounds like you just don’t want to hold predatory people accountable for being predatory

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Anonymous #1 5w

If anything hookup culture helps you distinguish the type of people likely to be predators more easily and be able to avoid that in the future. If you abstain till marriage you might get stuck with someone creepy just bc you hadn’t been exposed to that part of them yet.

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Anonymous #3 5w

And this is one of the biggest reasons purity culture systemically and repeatedly hurts women over men. Statistics do not lie.

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Anonymous #2 5w

Uhh no, I never said I wouldn’t hold the photographer accountable. Just mentioned that there were ways to avoid that kind of situations as well.

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Anonymous #3 5w

U can date instead of hookup broski. No one mentioned abstinence until marriage, only u did lmao… normalizing hookup culture is wild

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Anonymous #1 5w

I’m not talking about the photographer. I’m being vague. By you saying she needs to avoid hookups or fully vet the person to avoid predators… you are not holding the actual perpetrators accountable you are blaming the woman (VICTIM) for not “knowing them” well enough. Why not collectively hold predatory behavior accountable so this shit simply doesn’t happen anymore, rather than putting the responsibility on women to avoid this group of people (who do a great job at hiding their predation btw)

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Anonymous #1 5w

You were the one saying don’t do hookups or don’t hookup with people you aren’t okay with. Sometimes you’re dating a person and you’re comfortable enough to sleep with them then find out they’re a predator. Also you responded to someone talking about abstinence and saying that route lowers your chance of meeting predators. Predators will be predators, it’s not the fault of the victim in any scenario

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Anonymous #3 5w

I never said it was the victim’s faults, I’m just saying there are ways to avoid those kind of scenarios. Any sensible person would understand that the photographer was at fault, that’s why I didn’t bother mentioning it was

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Anonymous #1 5w

You said “yea there is” in response to OP saying there wasn’t anything the person could have done to know or prevent it. That is blaming the victim by saying they could’ve done something to stop it

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Anonymous #3 5w

Stop it or be in that scenario

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Anonymous #3 5w

I’m not saying they could stop it from happening, merely they could prevent themselves from being in that situation (as directly quoted from the top, the term “prevent” not stop)… not hooking up could improve ur chances of assessing ppl before you engage in any sort of physical intimacy

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