Anonymous #2 4d

Bro I’m crying bc why would he even assume that, and then ruin the mood by asking 😭😭😭

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Dog?

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Anonymous #4 4d

Yes, this is what you say lol… that’s not you anymore and so you have a conversation that teaches the other person about your past and how you’ve grown

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Anonymous #13 4d

Fr like give the man some grace, he was trying to be kind

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Anonymous #15 4d

It’s not kind to point out scars in the first place. Literally just be normal about it. Like a respectful question is fine but bro, time and place. It wasn’t respectful to ask me that question in that way at that time

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Anonymous 3crows_in_a_trenchcoat 4d

Nah this would be weird regardless

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Anonymous #20 3d

nah that’s terrible but nothing you can do

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Anonymous #2 3d

same oh my god. we were just sitting around casually and he starts looking at me with the saddest puppy dog face asking “what are these” and im just like are u fucking idiot 😭

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Anonymous #2 3d

look as someone who used to self harm I actually mainly did cut on my the front and back of my upper thighs and lower lower stomach… sometimes even somewhat near my breasts cause I knew those were the places people were least likely to see or find out about ever

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Anonymous #5 3d

same, idk 😭 something about someone addressing them makes my insides swirl around (not in a good way 🫩)

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True. I used to do the bottoms of my feet because my heels would heal back.

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Anonymous #28 3d

I used to do that too

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Anonymous #31 3d

this is hot because i’m 20 and reading wattpad

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Anonymous #2 3d

My ex primarily would cut her thighs, especially her hips because they weren’t visible. She specifically chose spots that no one would see so she could get away with it, so it’s really not that out of the question

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Anonymous #22 3d

people really think that we’re just poor lost souls who need their sympathy and shining light to help us be real people and not just sadbrained losers

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Anonymous #21 3d

It’s both. I like when people are nice to me.

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Anonymous #9 3d

if you had them then you wouldn’t. They’re not anything special, just a reminder of the worst time of your life so it’s insanely disrespectful for someone to bring them up all the time

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Anonymous OP 3d

i’m sorry

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Anonymous #8 3d

Don’t be sorry sister. Be better.

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Anonymous #31 3d

would being a man make it worse or better?

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Anonymous #8 3d

dawg 🫩

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Anonymous 3crows_in_a_trenchcoat 3d

people act like because they didn’t openly laugh in your face and taunt you about it that you’re obligated to respond well to their pity/questioning/tumblr response.

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Anonymous #21 3d

I recognize most people don’t but I’ve been in multiple relationships where I have broached the topic, but not like that. I’ve absolutely looked at someone and been really gentle about it. I don’t catch them off guard with something heavy and that is a reminder of really bad days, but I will say that I’ve had the spots where mine were kissed by someone before and when they’ve told me they’re glad I’m still here and that I’m still beautiful it made me feel the most loved I had in a while.

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Anonymous #36 3d

Again, I know that isn’t a lot of people’s experiences but I did want to put out a good experience because I recognize that there’s good intentions behind some people doing this and I do want those people to know that the thought they have counts even if they probably shouldn’t act on it/broach it that way (it’s perfectly acceptable to just say “I’m glad you’re here” on a bad day!!! It gets the same point across without making things extremely emotional for the other person!)

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Anonymous #35 3d

Okay

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Anonymous ritachuck 3d

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Anonymous #21 3d

I mean, i didn’t do traditional self harm but i do have some faint scars from when I did. I’d find it kinda sweet and healing. Like if it was a genuine moment of care and intimacy. I kinda see them as something i made it past (mostly)

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Anonymous #36 3d

Aww, yes. you see thats what I find sweet

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Anonymous OP 3d

You could’ve told him that though, you could’ve had an adult conversation and said “hey these are from a traumatic event and I find that you made this assumption extremely disrespectful.” He was trying his best to be kind and make you feel loved, he obviously didn’t realize how intrusive he was being

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Anonymous #15 3d

Brother you’re acting like I’ve told you all about some crazy ass reaction I had to that comment when I have actually said NOTHING about the conversation that followed that comment he made 💀

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