This argument exists for many other identities and it is still harmful. I.e. discussions of race, class and political affiliations. The common thing amongst these all is the fact that when your way of thinking is normalized we move further back on progress of peace, safety, inclusion, equality, etc. That talking point of why hate for one gender is acceptable only exists in echo chambers online. Hope this helps.
91% of sexual assault victims are woman. 1 in 3 women experience sexual harassment or assault before the age of 21. The women hate is so forced, violence can happen to anyone and any gender, but we need to take a look at the bigger picture. Open your eyes and defend your mothers, your sisters, your daughters, we live a different life. If you cant see the oppression that’s caused by the narrative against women or how the scale is tipped in men’s favor you are part of the problem.
That was your takeaway? Generalized hate against any group is the inverse of progress. The kind of progress that has helped move women out of systemic oppression. Yes, there are still societal issues and disparities to address, but progress doesn’t come from flipping hate. It comes from striving toward equity, not misrepresented hate. You don’t dismantle “oppression” by mimicking its mindset.
Except it isn’t mimicking it you’re missing the point. When men express hatred toward women, it’s historically tied to control, violence, and systemic oppression. When women express hate toward men, it’s not about creating a new system of oppression it’s a response to centuries of inequality, harm, and dismissal. It’s a coping mechanism, a form of resistance, and often, a way to articulate pain in a world that still centers male power. 1/2
And no, criticizing systems like patriarchy isn’t the same as justifying hate toward men. You can challenge harmful power structures without blaming every individual born into them. Assigning guilt based on gender alone is exactly the kind of thinking we’re supposed to be moving past. Only about 2% - 4% of men most statistics show have committed a sexual assault. The majority of men aren’t rapists and pretending like they are dangerous doesn’t do any help
This isn’t about flipping the same mindset. It’s about calling out a structure that’s harmed women for generations. “Hating men” in this context doesn’t mean advocating for harm or oppression it’s often symbolic, a rejection of patriarchal norms and the roles women are expected to play within them. It’s not idealized “equity,” but it is a step toward confronting real, embedded injustices. I genuinely hope you understand this and are willing to adjust your view point. 2/2
You still aren’t see the bigger picture, I don’t hate individual men. I haven’t actually met a woman that does, but I also can’t walk alone at night without my boyfriend present, I have been primed my entire life to be prey and be ready to defend myself. We live in a system where women are often the victims of violence in a narrative controlled by men. They ARE dangerous. You may not be, my boyfriend isn’t, but he still crossed the street to not scare a girl walking alone when I’m not there
“Pretending like they are dangerous” is the one thing you said that really was scary. I don’t think that one needs explaining. Men are dangerous, not all, but enough it changes the lives and upbringing of every woman alive. If you don’t understand that baseline then you are not a safe person.
It’s sad you aren’t hearing me. If you really read what I’m saying you would understand it’s not coming from a place of hate it’s coming from a place of systematic oppression. Just like yes how black people live in more fear than white people do OF white people. It’s called white privilege, or in this case male privilege.