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Icks 10w
when people initiate friendships hoping it’ll become something more instead of just being upfront about the fact that they want a relationship
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Anonymous 10w

How do you even know if you want to be in a relationship with someone before you befriend them. Like you can’t just look at a stranger and know a relationship would be possible. You have to meet them and get to them before you know that a relationship would be nice/work

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Anonymous 10w

I mean, isn’t that how it works? Unless you mean that the intention of having a relationship is only one sided and therefore the other person is hoping for more

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Anonymous 10w

would becoming friends with someone you’re attracted to but not necessarily looking to date at the moment count under this?

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Anonymous 10w

disagree. thats how the game works

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 10w

no. it’s one thing to develop feelings for a friend over time. some people (mostly men) befriend people they want to date so they can get closer to them and then eventually ask them out.

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 10w

ig the biggest difference is the intent. are you befriending them to be friends or are you befriending them to make asking them out easier

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 10w

Hmm define “game.” Cause last time I checked honesty is the best policy. Having to lie and deceive to get what you want isn’t “game.” That’s just being a loser lmao

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Anonymous replying to -> #3 10w

do you think its lying when you glaze your crush, when you compliment them, when you laugh extra hard at their jokes? you do tssubconsciously bc you cant help but feel attracted to them. lets suppose you are a woman who feels betrayed by your male friends when you realize they wanted you. instead of labelling them as immoral, you should recognize that they are compelled to act deceptively in that way bc of their attraction to u, and focus on improving your ability to recognize when its happening

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 10w

im trying to say that deception is an inherent part of seduction, and that “game” can be exciting, intriguing. you are sad because it means youve lost a friend. but would you still say their deception was immoral if you liked them back?

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Anonymous replying to -> #4 10w

read my replies to #1

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 10w

you should never approach someone claiming to want friendship knowing you don’t see them as just a friend. this is a gross way to justify shitty dishonest behavior.

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Anonymous replying to -> #3 10w

yeah befriending someone knowing they only want friendship from you but you want something more and you’re hoping they’ll eventually give in and date you. i don’t mean developing feelings for someone over the course of your friendship.

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 10w

yes, i agree it is immoral if they explicitly claimed to just want friendship. as in by saying that out loud. but i think all else is fair game

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 10w

but im open to hear what you have to say. can you think of a big enough implicit suggestion to where its pretty much the same thing as saying it directly?

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