Anonymous #1 3w

that’s a 2 year age gap bffr

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Anonymous #2 3w

May be 2 years but still very different in how their mind works and rationalizes things. As someone going into my senior year of college, my freshmen self and Junior self were completely different, ask most juniors who were 20-21 and they’d agree. Plus it’s the same argument when saying a freshman in Highschool shouldn’t be dating a junior, while there also might be a 2-3 year difference it’s still something that shouldn’t happen

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Anonymous #1 3w

Firstly, how would I know someone is 18 and not 19 or 20 if I’m 20? Like you’re really stretching here over a 2 year age gap…

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Anonymous #1 3w

What you’re saying is not scientifically true. People mentally mature at different rates and also women are more mentally mature than men for most of their lives. Entirely common for an 18 year old girl to be more cognitively developed than a 20 year old guy. You’re also moving the goal post to now saying 3 years when I’m saying 2

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Anonymous OP 3w

Well the post said a junior so that could be 20-21 not just 20. Also just because women mentally mature faster shouldn’t be an excuse to want to date someone who just turned 18 😭 I do understand that someone might not know someone’s a freshman or 18, but that’s why you ask those questions. You’re not gonna meet someone then want to date them without knowing basic information like age.even if we keep this goal post at 2 years it’s still weird. You’re at two different places in life

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Anonymous #1 3w

Bro no one at 20 is thinking about girls who just turned 18. Either way only a 2 year age gap is not some huge issue at all. You sound fucking crazy saying someone at 18 is in a different place in their life than someone at 20 when they’re both at college doing classes

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Anonymous #1 3w

Are you one of those people who think any age gap at any point in life is grooming or something? Because you’re pretty close to that

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Anonymous OP 3w

There are definitely people at 20 thinking about girls who just turned 18, and just because both are taking college classes doesn’t negate the fact that they are at different places in their life

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Anonymous #1 3w

Is 20 & 22 an issue? Is 24 & 26 an issue? Is 28 & 30 an issue? Actually what’s the age gap of your parents?

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Anonymous OP 3w

And no I don’t, I just think it’s weird to say someone who’s a junior in college dating a freshman who just turned 18 is weird. Age gaps are weird in general to begin with if they’re super big but it’s not grooming. But if they met when one was freshly 18 and the other was already in their 20s even if they are just 20, that’s just weird

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Anonymous #1 3w

You’re stuck on this “just turned 18” what if they’re about to turn 19 and are a freshman and the other person is 20?

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Anonymous OP 3w

Lowkey still kinda weird unless the person just turned 20, I admit there’s a lot of things we’re you can pull the what if card, but you saying I’m stuck on just turned 18 defeats the purpose of the post you reposted. If someone is about to turn 19 and they’re dating someone who’s 20, unless that person just turned 20 at least a month or two ago I personally think it’s still weird, because if that person is about to turn 21 then it gives the same vibe at 18 & 20.

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Anonymous #1 3w

I think you’re like the 1% of people on the very edge of the bell curve who has this issue. What age gap isn’t weird for you?

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Anonymous OP 3w

After you hit 21 I really don’t care how old you date it mainly the fact that 18 and even sometimes 19 is just that weird age where if you date someone 2 years older it’s still kinda weird to me. As someone who turned 19 at the beginning of college. It’s the fact that Highschool was only 2-3 months ago and now you’re dating someone who’s been in college for 3 years and is about to become a functioning adult in society.

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Anonymous #1 3w

I think you have an infantilized view of people who are 18-19. Like yes you’re not the same level of adult as someone who’s 25 or 30, but you’re not some helpless person whose unable to make choices or judgment calls

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Anonymous OP 3w

I’m just saying that someone who’s 18-19 and is a freshman in college is not in the same place as a junior in college, whether they be 20 or 21. They can most definitely make choices and judgement calls, but at the end of the day it’s most likely going to be different considering usually this is the first time officially away from parents where they have to figure things out on their own entirely.

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Anonymous OP 3w

It would be weird for this person to date someone who’s moving onto a new stage of life figuring things out, and maybe to you this might seem like I’m infantilizing 18-19 year olds, but it’s just what it is, someone who’s just starting out in the real world who probably hasn’t made many huge decisions compared to someone who has already been doing

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Anonymous OP 3w

Also the idea that girls mature faster is kinda a false statement. The science behind it is weird at best. Women do tend to be interested in older individuals. But I think the idea is that more experienced individuals going after less experienced people is the problem. It’s like preying on someone who is vulnerable. But it’s also weird to put all “freshmen” and “juniors” in college in the same category. Just don’t go after people you think are easy, a shit ton people do that.

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Anonymous #3 3w

The 18 & 20 year old relationship on avg is not an inherently predatory thing at all. If you were to expand your definition then you’d have to include so many other types of relationships

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Anonymous OP 3w

Which is what I said? People who go for vulnerable/ inexperienced people—in relationships, business relationships, or anything else, are inherently predatory and should not be encouraged to

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Anonymous #3 3w

Yeah I disagree that a 20 year old is that much more experienced than an 18 year old to the point where it’s an issue

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Anonymous OP 3w

I guess the thing is, a 20yr old older classman is usually going for the newbie freshman bc they want an inexperienced/vulnerable person. Not the age perse, but the notion of that dynamic being something that can be predatory. I get what you are saying, but the truth is that in college an upper classman is more experienced and less vulnerable than the new freshman who is freshly on their own. Outside of that, no there is no problem. But individuals who do that consistently are definitely pred

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Anonymous #3 3w

It’s just a long way to allude to people who only date virgins basically. Which is the case a lot, not everytime or every relationship, but it def is a pattern.

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