A lot of you clearly hold some sort of resentment against women because you’ve been hurt by one before, and I get the instinct is to automatically approach any woman after that with doubt and suspicion, but, that’s the risk you take when making any sort of connection with literally anyone. I get it, I’ve definitely been hurt and used by guys who took my vulnerability for granted, but I still continue to date with hope that at least one guy will cherish my vulnerability.
Confirmation bias will do that to you, and I won’t ever downplay the hurt one gets from losing a long term relationship with someone. But, that’s the beautiful thing about life, is that with every year you lose with someone, you’ve got so many years ahead of you to spend with someone who’s even better. Give yourself space to heal, and approach your next attempt with the knowledge gained from the mistakes of your previous relationship.
The worst thing you can do is be all doom and gloom about it. Then you’re bringing that energy into relationships and expecting them all to fail, which they will inevitably do because you’re on the lookout for it The vulnerability thing also applies to everyone, not just men. Anyone can be taken advantage of, man or woman (or nonbinary if that’s the case), but at the same time everyone should be able to express their vulnerability. For some reason society is ok with women doing that…