Insane Comments on Yik Yak | We really need to normalize two things: 1) Men, you are not entitled to sex just cause you’re nice to a girl 2) Ladies, you are not entitled to friendship after a rejection Just respect people’s boundaries on both sides and move the fuck on

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Insane Comments 8w

We really need to normalize two things: 1) Men, you are not entitled to sex just cause you’re nice to a girl 2) Ladies, you are not entitled to friendship after a rejection Just respect people’s boundaries on both sides and move the fuck on

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Anonymous 8w

I don’t feel entitled to friendship but it pisses me off to think I’m gaining a friend and he was only ever interested in banging me. Is my only value in being a piece of meat to fuck? I’d rather normalize getting over a crush instead of getting butthurt (talking to all people not just men), it’s really not that hard.

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Anonymous 7w

Those are agreeable terms🤝

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Anonymous 8w

One of these is way worse than the other btw

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Anonymous

#1 8w

Most psychiatrists say it's better for men to break it off entirely if the romantic intentions aren’t fulfilled - it's healthier for recovery. It's best to just let it go and they'll do their own thing - they never were your friend. You misread their flirting as friendliness.

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Anonymous

OP 8w

Maybe don’t bank everything on a crush and you won’t be destroyed by it? I’m not the only one who’s lost years-long friendships because a man shot his shot and would rather lose me in all ways than just keep distance for a bit until he got over himself. It’s naive to assume people are always upfront about what they want. I can read flirting/friendliness just fine thanks.

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Anonymous

#1 8w

Clearly not, because then you’d have no problem distinguishing between a man flirting and being friendly to you. Again, common problem that psychiatrists have written many papers about. Girls assume less guys are into them there are and guys assume more girls are into them then there are. In his eyes he was never friends with you - he felt nothing when you rejected him besides the rejection. The “loss of friendship” was inconsequential.

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Anonymous

OP 8w

The way you’re responding sounds like you don’t think men and women can be friends at all lol. I’m not narcissistic enough to assume every man who talks to me wants a relationship. “He was never friends with you” is a very presumptuous statement when in my case 3 yrs went by before flirting started when he developed feelings. You can’t just assume they’re all mindlessly pursuing someone from the start.

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Anonymous

#2 7w

Wdym worse? The point of the post is that both of these things are completely acceptable and neither wrongs you in any way. Are you arguing that one or both of these boundaries is not ok to have? That women owe men sex and/or men owe women friendship?

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Anonymous

#4 7w

no, I’m saying these two things aren’t even on the same level. Men expecting sex from women is not on the same level as women wanting to be amicable after a rejection. It’s like comparing apples to oranges.

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