
Depends how long theyāve lived a certain way without changing it. Like Iām sorry but if someone is in their 40s, living in filth, wearing raggedy clothes, barely working, and not ever showering and making themselves look somewhat presentable, an been doing all this for like a decade, then we should absolutely judge them. We gotta draw the line on these somewhere. Thereās a difference between going through tough times and simply living like trash for the fuck of it
It really just depends on your relationship to the person though, and also how harsh the comment is. I think the biggest thing is really if you have an understanding of their situation, and how open they are about the stuff. I realize this is like a general rule but sometimes it really isnāt that big of a deal. Like two people from fucked up families can low key bond over making fun of their situations but itās because they both get it.
I realize some people donāt agree with this line of thinking either but I personally appreciate if I get made fun of by my friends. Like if I get a bad haircut, or my outfit doesnāt look right I donāt mind if they make fun bc I will know better next time. I think itās important to understand your flaws, only way to fix them is to recognize them, or you can accept it and then the joke shouldnāt matter.
If it crosses a line for you then say so, itās really only messed up if you have said you donāt want it to be mentioned and they continue doing it. I think it comes down to like I said before the relationship to the person. If they are strangers then yeah that stuff is basically all off the table, and itās usually better to do self deprecating humor. If you are friends and they make jokes about topics you asked them not to after you ask them then they arenāt really your friends.