I don’t know, man…I guess I just feel that if someone’s not comfortable being referred to by those monikers then it’s not my place to shame them out of how they feel. It’s important to me that I ensure folks feel respected and seen for who they are around me, and I really think that respecting this is an important piece of that.

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if someone has a problem with me using those words to describe them, then i listen and don't do that

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No one uses it in that context as a gender neutral term. I think they mean saying it like “hey guys” or “dude you gotta see this”. I feel like a lot of you read posts like this and immediately jump to the least charitable interpretation possible

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I call people kids a lot. Like, "that kid" "oh a kid" etc. (anyone under 35 is a potential kid. Not a child! Specifically a kid). But sometimes I do know the gender of the person I'm talking about! And somehow, whenever said kid in question is a girl, people are surprised! It does not matter what I'm saying they're doing. Somehow even "kid" is masculine for many people. It's very interesting, and I hope I can continue to make people think about it!

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yeah i mean it's all contextually dependent. i hate how we're fucking retreading the same 5 tumbler arguments instead of talking about the real issues: capitalism

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