Anonymous #2 13h

Oh sorry I knew that wasn’t right, what do I call it, do I. Just not say anything, is it different for each woman?

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Anonymous OP 12h

the most respectful way to say it imo would be “i don’t have a genital preference/i don’t care about genitals”. like you said, its different for everyone

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Anonymous OP 12h

got cut off early - its diff for everyone so its best to avoid any loaded terms until u actually know what she wants if you know its not an issue for you, then i would say in the hypothetical where you start dating a trans woman, to disclose upfront you don’t have a preference either way and save the questions until you’re either more familiar with each other or about to have sex, whichever comes first

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Anonymous OP 12h

& if you’re asking someone i’d say something along the lines of “what terms do you want me to use?” “what would you like me to call this?” vary as needed to make it sound like yourself, just anything neutral like that

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Anonymous #3 11h

Ok that’s actually all good to know thanks, and I won’t be using the other word again

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