LGBTQIA+ on Yik Yak | Hot take but I feel like we need more people just being typical and gay. Like, some people entire existence is an outward protest (and is needed), but I feel like I do a lot with appearing as a typical cog in the machine until sexuality is brought up.

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LGBTQIA+ 12w

Hot take but I feel like we need more people just being typical and gay. Like, some people entire existence is an outward protest (and is needed), but I feel like I do a lot with appearing as a typical cog in the machine until sexuality is brought up.

Anonymous 12w

Like I don’t dress any differently or speak different or anything like that (no hate on those who do). I’m just me as I have always been even before I realized I’m not so straight. But like anything else in my life (be it that I only have a mom or my hobbies or my siblings or pets or anything else), I only bring it up when it’s in conversation.

Anonymous 12w

I see where you’re coming from, Im in a pretty similar position where most people don’t think I’m not straight. However I feel like it hasn’t come up in conversation very often, so I don’t really feel like I’ve made an impact on many people, since they still don’t know. I also lowkey want to stand out a little more because I don’t know how to flirt and people won’t flirt with me otherwise lol

Anonymous 12w

Every once in a while people are surprised that I’m gay and that is how it should be sometimes cause I’ve turned some homophobes with the revelation I’m gay (I have acted the same and dressed the same since I was 12, I am now 22)

Anonymous 12w

why is it a good thing to be a typical cog in the machine? like go off live ur typical life but i wouldn’t argue being a cog is something to aim for

Anonymous

OP 12w

I feel like, by doing this, I force people to see that being gay really isn’t all that different. My life or “lifestyle” really doesn’t change. I also can see how people actually feel and can spot homophobes easier. But it also gives me time to see their perspective and hopefully give them a new view to consider.

Anonymous

OP 12w

I’ve befriended many homophobes and once they realized, they had to decide themselves was losing a friend worth a hatred of a small part of my life (that they aren’t even in). It’s very important to set strict boundaries in those cases though and be fully prepared (and act on) letting people go.

Anonymous

#1 12w

I feel like it not coming up only proves the the point that gays are normal. Cause if it was abnormal, more people would realize it faster. But yeah, it does kinda kill the dating scene lol

Anonymous

#2 12w

I mean, in a society that demonizes you for being too different, being able to show them you’re not only not that different but so normal that they can’t even recognize the difference is exactly what I’d shoot for.

Anonymous

OP 12w

why would you want to be the same as those who demonize you?

Anonymous

#2 12w

It’s not wanting to be the same as them. I’m not changing anything about me (did you read my post or follow comments at all??). It’s about proving to them that their reasoning for demonizing us is invalid.

Anonymous

OP 12w

yeah i get that, that’s like not how it works though? they’ll find a way to demonize us even if more of us become “palatable”

Anonymous

#2 12w

It is how it works though. People have used similar methods of peaceful protest for years. Repeatedly proving them wrong will give those willing to change an opportunity to see the bigotry. If you don’t agree, that’s fine. I’m not asking every gay person in the world to do this. I’m just sharing my experience.

Anonymous

#2 12w

And I’m not saying be more palatable. I’m not saying change who you are at all. I specifically said to be firm in the boundaries set and be willing to loose people. It’s about making people think so they aren’t just accepting the hatred they were socialized in.