LGBTQIA+ on Yik Yak | my boyfriend doesn’t like telling people he’s in a relationship due to it being a queer relationship, is this like a major red flag or something else?

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LGBTQIA+ 6w

my boyfriend doesn’t like telling people he’s in a relationship due to it being a queer relationship, is this like a major red flag or something else?

Anonymous 6w

it depends on the environment y’all live in. i’ve been with my wife for almost a decade and was closeted at my last two jobs (extremely conservative red state) and only became comfortable mentioning her after we moved (large urban area in a blue state).

Anonymous 6w

No. My partner and I agree to just tell people outside of our family/friend circle that we’re just roommates. Especially new coworkers and people we’re meeting for the first time. You never know if you’re meeting someone who will secretly cast a cloud of hate over you and/or plan something vindictive

Anonymous 6w

Deleted my comment about queer platonic relationships because apparently I can’t read and that response was kinda stupid. My b y’all

Anonymous 6w

its definitely odd

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Anonymous

#1 6w

we’ve also been together for more than a year. mutual friends know but like his new coworkers don’t know

Anonymous

#2 6w

i don’t know we are in a good environment, he’s not comfortable with being gay i think. he also is upset when we are apart but also is unwilling to say that he’s dating me to others

Anonymous

#2 6w

even in “progressive” areas it can still lead to workplace discrimination etc. it’s fine for you to want to be out and to have a partner that is also out, this might be an area of incompatibility, but it is a complex issue. if all of your friends know then, for me, i think it’s fine.

Anonymous

OP 6w

okay so it sounds like he has some internalized homophobia he needs to work thru and it’s not necessarily a reflection on you or your relationship. it may be something that comes with time or it can be a dealbreaker for you. however, i don’t think it’s a “red flag.”