tbh I'm aroace and I never plan on telling my family, they won't understand it and I just don't think it's worth it however if you think they'd be understanding and support you then I'm sure it's worth it! just consider the possible outcomes but coming out as nb is important I think, especially if you use different pronouns or want to change your name. for your own comfort if nothing else bc I can't imagine it feels good to be deadnamed/have the wrong pronouns used I wish you luck!!

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Also my enby realization is recent, so I’m not sure exactly how I feel about my pronouns and possibly changing my name l. Maybe I should wait until I have more concrete answers to come out?

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There’s something to be said for being yourself openly, but I prefer coasting along never telling my parents I’m bi gray aroace and some kind of genderqueer. They either guess or they don’t, but I don’t have the energy to hold their hand through it.

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Also, I think it’s worth considering what you hope the outcome of coming out to your family will be, and then realistically whether that will actually be achieved.

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