Anonymous OP 15w

Considering consuming fecal material

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Anonymous OP 15w

why did you do a complete 180 from your post’s message dawg

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Anonymous #2 15w

I didn’t do a 180 i just am a complex person. I do not kink shame the community. I kink shame individuals who disrespect me and my boundaries. If you don’t push your kink on me or if you approach me with your kink and I say I’m not interested but you continue to try to get me to engage in it that’s shameful behavior in my opinion. And just like it’s ok for them to have their kink it’s ok for me to not have it and stand up for myself.

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Anonymous #2 15w

And some people do practice kinks in a controlled and “safe” way. Others don’t take necessary precautions. And can end up hurting themselves or even worse without realizing it. My stance if if you’re going to do something do it right get informed and be aware of the risks. And also to respect others and don’t push them into something they aren’t comfortable with.

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Anonymous OP 15w

if someone approached you wanting to have sex when you didn’t want it, and you later shamed them for it, that wouldn’t be kink shaming. you’re shaming the person. if they do the same but it’s abt a kink, how is that not also shaming the person

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Anonymous OP 15w

can you tell me what you think kink shaming means?

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Anonymous #2 15w

So the way you are proposing it is shaming the person not the kink? I see it as shaming the person and how they interact with their kink. In your example with sex sex is not inherently kinky. In that instance I would be sex shaming the person. To me kink shaming can be done on a large scale (macro) or a small scale (micro)

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Anonymous OP 15w

Some people shame kinks in general this would be macro some people might be cool with cbt and breath control but shame kinks involving bodily fluids. This would still be macro but it’s less generalized and more localized to certain kinks. Then some people might only shame people with piss kinks I would still call this macro but it’s highly localized. I would say I do micro shaming where I shame individuals and not a community or group of people. And I shame them less for the actual kink and more

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Anonymous OP 15w

For how they engage with it and treat others through it.

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Anonymous OP 15w

I use a similar lenses when looking at a variety of different things like religion for example. I call it kink shaming because most still see any criticism of kinks or people kinks as a general criticism of an entire community and culture vs a criticism of a specific person and how they engage with kinks. And people often don’t look past their first assumptions and impressions

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Anonymous OP 15w

I’m actually a really big advocate in my local community to accept people’s sexual identity’s and kinks. I think everyone should be allowed to enjoy and express themselves sexually. But the issue is people. People are rude people are quick to judge and slow to listen/change. People also don’t always research and study things before they engage in them, which I think is an important aspect of the kink community

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Anonymous OP 15w

ok yeah, what you’re calling micro kink-shaming is what most people (ime) would call just straight up shaming. kink shaming implies that you’re shaming something inherent to the kink, thus you’re shaming everyone who has that kink

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Anonymous #2 15w

And thats where we disagree but it’s ok we disagree. Diversity of opinions and views is ok.

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Anonymous OP 15w

I’m not even over here saying I kink shame I’m just accepting that some people (the majority) perceive it as kink shaming. I personally don’t really think it’s kink shaming or at least not general kink shaming

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Anonymous OP 15w

from what I’ve seen, no one else thinks your kink shaming either

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Anonymous #2 15w

My DMs and people I have blocked say otherwise

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Anonymous OP 15w

eh if you say so

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