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I hate it when straight people ask if I’m a top or bottom. Do they ask straight people if they prefer missionary or doggy style?
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Anonymous 3w

And when I say “Do you want to come over and find out? 😏” I'm the bad guy 🙄

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Anonymous 3w

When they ask “top or bottom” but what they actually mean is “dom or sub” (both are inappropriate and rude to ask)

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Anonymous 3w

I matched with someone on hinge the other day and literally his first message was like “for compatibility purposes, are you a top or bottom?” Idk I just don’t like the perceived inherent sexual nature of queer relationships

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Anonymous 3w

You should ask them!

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Anonymous replying to -> #4 3w

Okay but in dating I think it’s as reasonable as a straight person asking another one if they’re more dom/sub. You don’t have to ask it, but you can end up being incompatible if you don’t. It depends how much you want to talk about sex before having it vs just do it and find out

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Anonymous replying to -> #5 3w

That would also be an inappropriate question to ask in a first message on a dating site

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