For context, I don’t hate myself, i love who i am, and I’ve liked my name leading up to now, it just no longer fits my gender. I want a more gender affirming name, but I can’t help but feel like changing my name would be like putting on a persona. I don’t feel that way about any other parts of transitioning, just w/ the name
I think it’s helpful to remember you don’t have to fit into the binary idea of gender for your transition to be valid. If you feel your name is you, there’s absolutely no need to change it. You don’t need a name that “fits the gender” for your gender identity to be valid. You just need to be you. If that doesn’t mean changing your name that’s totally valid and always an option. Just bc changing names is a common part of many trans people’s stories, doesn’t mean it has to be part of yours 💜