as far as your girlfriend goes, you need to be authentic with her. maybe she’ll feel differently when actually confronted with reality and not just a hypothetical. and if she feels as she says, you’re better off not wasting both of your time. you cannot stay closeted forever and eventually you two will have to confront this

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I’d say you def need to let her know what’s going on because you deserve to be happy as well. Rn this is almost like a “fake” relationship bc you aren’t being 100%. If she stays that’s amazing and if she leaves at least you both then can find the true love you deserve. You deserve to be happy in your skin as well as with your partner!

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i’ve been on the other end of this, in that i suspected that my boyfriend was trans and i am heterosexual. he ended up deciding he was wasn’t trans but the idea of him rejecting who is just to be with me makes me very sad. and im sure your gf will feel the same way. plus if you can’t be yourself around your partner they’re not truly a good fit for you.

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has your gf ever mentioned that she wouldn’t like you if you came out or smth?

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I feel like if someone expresses that they are uncomfortable about something and then you disrespect that boundary that’s uncool. It’s also uncool that you are staying in the closet for her, it’s not good for either of you

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I’ve been a closeted trans man for years and it’s been weighing on me

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