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LGBTQIA+ 17w
Here’s why the “well you can find love in platonic friends” argument. They leave for other relationships and you become less important. So no I can’t find the love i need in platonic friendships because I will never be as important as they are to me
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Anonymous 17w

Omg here’s why the “well you can find love in platonic friends” argument doesn’t work**** good lord I need to proof read

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Anonymous 17w

real, but I think a lot of people posing that argument are also trying to speak to the fact that what you’re describing—friends deprioritizing you once they have a romantic partner, i.e. amatonormativity—is itself a problem. that people Need to unlearn that tendency so friendships can be more fulfilling on average

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 17w

So here’s the question, if it’s so common isn’t that the standard and we are the weird ones? I’m from small college town nowhereville where marriage is more important than the degree so literally everyone but me and my other roommate don’t have relationships and the people that do will never have lives outside of their partner

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 17w

amatonormativity is definitely the standard in the US, but at the risk of sounding smug or conceited, I think it’s pretty common for critical thinking and strong ethical principles to lead to opinions that run counter to the standard. cause for instance there were points in history where people would laugh at you for questioning slavery or saying women should be able to vote

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 17w

I don’t have a ton of specific insight into Why things are like this here but I know that like you said, the emphasis on marriage is a huge piece of the puzzle. something to do with patriarchy, the way the institution of marriage was originally about keeping women captive as little more than property. things have changed but the legacy remains

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