LGBTQIA+ on Yik Yak | I hate the fact that me not being into hookups isolates me from other queer men. Sure I’m horny too but I don’t want to have sex with a random stranger. But it’s such a huge part of mlm culture that not doing it really makes me feel isolated

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LGBTQIA+ 5w

I hate the fact that me not being into hookups isolates me from other queer men. Sure I’m horny too but I don’t want to have sex with a random stranger. But it’s such a huge part of mlm culture that not doing it really makes me feel isolated

Anonymous 5w

ok so 1) there are plenty of gay/queer men out there who are not into hookups, they’re just not on grindr because that’s literally why grindr exists, and 2) as a side who does have “hookups” i can attest that you can absolutely have emotionally fulfilling casual encounters and you shouldn’t be completely avoiding the concept, just like anything else you have to filter out the trash to find nuggets of gold

Anonymous 5w

Same

Anonymous 5w

That was a lot of my issue in being in the cis gay community and my areas. Being out as a straight Trans woman seems to bring more of the sex-obsessed ones my way, as well as the usual chasers and assholes.

Anonymous

#2 5w

while i agree casual sex can be emotionally fulfilling, im not sure if i agree hookups can be? or at least not in the way i mean emotionally fulfilling. it can make u feel good about yourself and maybe boost your confidence but personally i don’t see how a hookup could fulfill the desire for emotional personal connection. kind of a tangent not related to the point of the post i just think this is a genuinely interesting topic to talk about and id like to hear your POV:)

Anonymous

#4 5w

well i guess it depends on what you mean by “hookups”. to me any sexual encounter with someone you’re not actively dating constitutes a “hookup” but i also rarely ever do that without at least having a preliminary conversation first to establish mutual interests. i also make it exceedingly clear to any potential hookups that i’m not looking for a quickie, i want actual intimacy otherwise id rather just stay home and beat my meat lol

Anonymous

#2 5w

i tend to come away from most of my hookups glad that i made the connection because i intentionally seek out people who i can connect with intimately and who are open to that, i am NOT interested in being used or taken advantage of, which is what i feel like a lot of people, especially young demi-leaning queers, think all hookups are like, and i just don’t think of it that way at all

Anonymous

#2 5w

okay so real actually! the definition of hookup in my head just means something less involved i guess. i also am not experienced at all in hookup culture so that’s really why i wanted to learn more abt what you think. i had a “one night stand” that weeks later became my best friend and the other person i have “casual sex” with is someone that i’ve been fucking for 3 years😭 so i fr am just inexperienced

Anonymous

#2 5w

i agree that a lot of younger people(obvi myself included) view hookups as a detached form of sex so i think it’s cool that you’re intentional about making sure it’s actually going to be beneficial for you instead of just fucking for the sake of fucking

Anonymous

#4 5w

you have to learn by doing unfortunately. you will never learn what you are or are not comfortable with if you never try anything. your knight in shining armor will never show up because they won’t know you exist unless you put yourself out there. will you have some negative experiences? sure, but that’s how you learn who and what to avoid