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My friend makes hating men her ENTIRE personality and it’s extremely draining and lowkey shatters my confidence and makes me scared to transition. (I’m ftm.)

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Anonymous 16w

Like, we would be driving through town and she would see a couple and be like “Omg, that girls so cute. Aww… she has an ugly boyfriend. So sad 😢.” And I’m just like “Bro, it’s LITERALLY just a couple walking on the street.”

Anonymous 16w

People who hate on men for simply existing are projecting something and it’s not healthy for anyone involved. Hope your friend heals from whatever’s hurting her, but god please leave her and protect your well being

Anonymous 16w

please protect your peace & stop being friends with her

Anonymous 16w

Sometimes people want to be feminist but think women’s rights just means women are better than men, instead of that everyone is equal. Hopefully it’s a phase. Fight back against it when you can. Just little things like “hey that’s kinda mean” or “no he seems chill” etc.

Anonymous 16w

no bc when I say "women who constantly shit on random men unprompted are annoying" some folk will look at me like I'm crazy. I'm a raging feminist too, but sometimes you just have to acknowledge men suck and move on. Like women ultimately have cultural trauma from men and some get (rightfully) bitter, but eventually it gets exhausting. & if you dig a bit deeper you will find that a lot of these women aren't aware enough to hold actually feminist beliefs (i.e. terfs) or actively reject feminism.

Anonymous 16w

as a gal i understand joking ab men but she’s taking it way too far… this type of mentality ab men is how we end up with terfs and also generally making men (esp queer men) uncomfortable for no reason. hate this shit im sorry you’re going through that.

Anonymous 16w

if she’s straight or lesbian, I have no advice, but if she’s bi it could just be internalized biphobia 😔 a lotttt of bi afabs really go overboard abt hating men bcos they feel like they have to prove their queerness. “I have a bf, unfortunately” types. Tbqh I struggled w it for a long time before coming fully to terms w my sexuality, and now I can recognize that my love for men is equally valid and beautiful as my love for women.

Anonymous 16w

man she sounds lame af she needs a real hobby

Anonymous 16w

hate to say it man but it might be time to distance yourself from her

Anonymous 16w

i think i see where you’re coming from but i think your examples are… not that bad tbr. like “average boyfriend beautiful woman” is a joke me nd my friends make all the time+if she’s just dunking on rando guys i don’t think it’s that bad ?? she’s not shitting on you she’s just making jokes about men who aren’t affected by them

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OP 16w

And when I say hating men is her ENTIRE personality I’m not joking. She constantly complains about guys who SHE gave her snap too and shits on them for quote, “You exist in my vicinity. That’s why I’m in a bad mood.”

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OP 16w

Her complaining lowkey brings the mood down. Me and our group would be out shopping or doing something and she would randomly be like “Oh my GODDDD!! (Guy she added) posted a stupid snap, like SHUT UP!” And the massive wave of negativity would just crush the whole mood.

Anonymous

OP 16w

she’s so funny

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Anonymous

#3 16w

Finding one subject and making it ur entire personality isn’t funny and it gets old quick.

Anonymous 16w

that’s not fun to be around either. having no personality in general other than shitting on others is especially unfun as a trans guy

Anonymous 16w

But also to further this, how is being gay anyone’s entire personality?? I don’t go around just kissing guys. I do a lot of queer associated things but I don’t constantly talk only about men I’d sleep with. I don’t know any gay person who does that

Anonymous 16w

there's a difference between making something positive your personality and making something negative your personality

Anonymous

OP 16w

King I think you need to stop being friends with her

Anonymous

#11 16w

like i agree it’s annoying when people make it their whole personality but it doesn’t sound like she is??

Anonymous

#11 16w

not fun to know my friends would shame me if they didn’t know me tbh

Anonymous

#5 16w

i genuinely think we’re just built different then bud, i think it’s unimportant what someone who i literally have and probably will never meet thinks of me

Anonymous

#5 16w

plus like idk my friends and i shame eachother 😭

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Anonymous

#9 16w

Yes and constantly taking it out on random men is not a way to combat sexism or cope! If a man deserves it, let it rip, but please leave strangers alone 😭 being unnecessarily mean to every single man is not getting revenge or making you feel better and it’s not helping anything. It’s focusing on negatives and keeping men centered in your life and on your mind. It’s bad for everyone involved

Anonymous

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Anonymous

#5 16w

You’re so right, but I can’t stop imagining that you spent the entire last three hours looking for this picture 😭😭 all jokes aside you’re exactly right

Anonymous

#10 16w

lmao if it wasn’t saved in a collection I would’ve had to go back to August

Anonymous

#5 16w

So valid

Anonymous

#5 16w

Can you send this to me pls it’s so good

Anonymous

#13 16w

I still have a strong preference for women, but I no longer feel bad abt my self when I find a guy I like, and don’t feel the need to put down guys for no reason or to put down women who are into guys. Maybe talk to her abt it if you think this could be the case? I don’t rlly have advice bcos I just grew out of it… but you could also try reality-checking her, even if she’s not bi. “You know that I’M a guy, right?” or “do you even really see me as a man?” Etc

Anonymous

#5 16w

if you can’t take someone saying that a different person isn’t cute i think you need help bro

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Anonymous

#11 16w

Is it not just basic manners to not insult someone's appearance unprompted.

Anonymous

#13 16w

She IS bisexual I think that might be the case

Anonymous

#9 16w

not everyone is the most attractive person in the world, that is a fact of life and if you can’t handle that you might not be that you need to be more realistic and also care less about physical appearance! i am not that attractive and i don’t care! most people aren’t!

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Anonymous

#11 16w

It’s not just saying someone is unattractive, it’s pointing out or making fun of specific traits or characteristics.

Anonymous

mother_russia 16w

it’s literally not though, saying “average bf hot gf, what a tragedy” is not directly insulting anything about the person specifically, and OP didn’t mention anything about their friend insulting specific characteristics

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Anonymous

#11 16w

jesus christ you’re all like 15 i can tell please go outside and learn that a girl saying “that guy isn’t cute” is not an insult to you, you’re literally just insecure in yourself and that is something YOU need to work on

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Anonymous

#11 16w

So that’s just one comment and it’s still rude but it’s not going to directly correlate to your friend unless they look similar, but the way OP was talking definitely sounds like she makes criticisms of every guy she sees all of the time, and other people are relating to that and inferring other things she likely said like getting more specific and body shaming.

Anonymous

mother_russia 16w

it seems to me like she’s literally just a girl making minor general jokes and he’s taking it too personally because he’s a fragile man !

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Anonymous

#11 16w

Seeing as op said it’s constantly and her whole personality… I don’t think it’s just a few jokes here or there.

Anonymous

mother_russia 16w

like omfg “sounds like” so you mean that’s not what he said??? you mean you’re reading a general statement and assuming things that you have no idea about in actuality??

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Anonymous

mother_russia 16w

OR op genuinely just can’t take a joke. you realize there are tons of people that can’t take jokes right

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Anonymous

#11 16w

dude you said “it seems to me” in your last message get off your high horse

Anonymous

#11 16w

So these could be minor jokes if they were every once-in-a-while, but things build if you’re constantly reiterating them. As for “he’s a fragile man”, the ftm context here is extremely important. I’d be sooo upset if someone was saying this stuff to me bcos it’s lowkey indicating that she doesn’t see OP as a man. If she has any cis guy friends, whether or not she makes these ‘jokes’ to them would tell you a lottt

Anonymous

#13 16w

you are once again inferring things, i make jokes about men to my cis man friends all the fucking time and since they know i’m not talking about them and they think it’s funny !

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Anonymous

#13 16w

Yeahh I’m ftm too and it’s definitely giving “I hate men, but like not you cause it’s ✨different✨” vibes

Anonymous

#6 16w

yeah i said “it seems to me” because i don’t know them or their friend, im just saying their examples are not that bad and that everyone is assuming a whole lot of BS based on some minor offenses

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Anonymous

#6 16w

or it’s not and she makes these jokes to him because she doesn’t want to exclude him?? i’m nonbinary but am planning on starting testosterone soon and if someone were to intentionally avoid joking about things with me it would make me feel significantly worse

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Anonymous

#11 16w

wow it’s almost like that’s the exact same reason everyone else is inferring things too

Anonymous

#11 16w

dude you’re making no sense

Anonymous

#11 16w

Girl that’s why I said “whether or not” !! For someone so caught up on “sounds like”, you sure don’t read too thoroughly 🤭

Anonymous

#11 16w

even minor, harmless general jokes can get on people's nerves if they do them constantly. Which OP said she was. Also are you just gonna ignore the whole snapchat stuff which. Makes no sense.