I’m not saying not to believe victims. I’m saying as someone falsely accused, my life was hell until my accuser admitted that he had exaggerated and projected trauma onto me, and I was innocent completely. I’ve forgiven them. As a victim, the dread that if I couldn’t PROVE that I was a victim, the real abuser would come out the other side vindicated as a falsely accused martyr, and I’d join the list of “fake victims” people point to, kept me from coming forward. We NEED to do better.

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