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LGBTQIA+ 4w
Feeling kinda frustrated lately. My partner is my first sexual partner, and I’m their first trans man partner. We’ve been together about six months and I’ve only orgasmed maybe 2 or 3 times and it’s always from me jerking myself off at the end
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Anonymous 4w

in a non weird way what gender is your partner, maybe they’re unfamiliar with different anatomy? or maybe try having them do the last bit at least? idk sexual incongruency will continue to cause issues though

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Anonymous 4w

My pleasure has never really been a priority in the relationship and I finally said something a couple nights ago because I’ve been feeling really undesirable. My partner also just frankly doesn’t have the stamina to make me come with their hand or mouth 😭

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Anonymous 4w

break up with them if they continue to leave you unsatisfied. it'll turn into resentment

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 4w

It’s not entirely on them though I do have a hard time letting go and focusing on my own pleasure because I feel a pressure to perform and make it good for *them* the whole time. Graghhhhh I feel like it’s just all wrong

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 4w

have you guys tried toys? different situation but I have an arousal disorder which makes it so I can't feel a lot physically. and it really takes a lot of time and effort to make me climax so vibrators in particular are really great for me so my partner doesn't kill their hand or jaw lol

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