Anonymous #2 2d

so what you want is to be gendered correctly. not degendered.

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Anonymous #5 2d

both misgendering and degendering can be accidental or intentional, depending on context. either way, people are allowed to be upset about being referred to incorrectly.

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Anonymous #7 2d

Okay but hear me out. Suppose someone goes by they/them pronouns. But the thing about “looking NB” is that it can also pass as male presenting or Masc in someway. Someone assumes pronouns are He/him just off of appearance. However, if someone refers to people as They/them by default rather than choosing he or she, people get mad anyway 😭 I typically call people They/them by default regardless of sexuality until corrected otherwise.

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Anonymous #5 1d

the people that get mad at they/them default before correction are a very small minority that everyone else thinks is dramatic generally. the issue is when you are explicitly told someone's pronouns and gender and continue to actively use gender neutral language

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Anonymous #7 1d

no i explicitly want people to disregard gender entirely when interacting with me

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Anonymous #7 22h

if they’re agender then you’re wrong. I don’t feel gender at all. I’m not one or the other or a mix of something else. I want to be degendered too.

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Anonymous #3 17h

no, if they’re agender (or prefer gender neutral language) then i’m right. being referred to gender neutrally is being gendered correctly.

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Anonymous #7 17h

no matter how you define degendering, i assure you that is what i want. there is no such thing as gendering me correctly.

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Anonymous #7 8h

you can’t gender the absence of gender correctly. We’re not a part of ur construct bro. Why are you so pressed and telling us what we want?

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Anonymous #3 8h

degendering is a transphobic and often racist phenomenon. treating it flippantly is disrespectful toward those in your community for whom it is an expression of bigotry. if your preference is for gender neutral language/omission of gendered language when referring to you, that is a preference for being gendered correctly—not being degendered. this term relates to a specific phenomenon.

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Anonymous #1 6h

It has two meanings. (transitive) To strip of gender; to make genderless or gender-neutral. (transitive) To refer to (someone) with terms that avoid mentioning their gender, such as calling a woman "they" or using "my partner" to refer to one's girlfriend. Your meaning is not the only right one. Stop acting as an authority to our experiences.

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Anonymous #1 6h

It’s not treating it flippantly if people genuinely want to be actively degendered, which is common for agender and nonbinary people. You’re being disrespectful by treading on lived experiences and stating what WE want (as if you’d know) after someone made a joke. It’s obnoxious for you to tell us how we feel— especially when it started with a joke from someone who clearly doesn’t associate with gender as a construct

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Anonymous #3 6h

joking about transphobia *is* flippant and insensitive. you’re making a lot of assumptions about me. i am nonbinary. i am just able to separate the concept of transphobic degendering from a personal preference for neutral language.

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Anonymous #1 4h

it would be transphobic to degender other people, but not if its at me. the act itself is neutral. whether its bad or not entirely depends on who is doing it and to whom.

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Anonymous #1 11m

Nonbinary ≠ agender. I already explained why you’re wrong. You’re making assumptions about us. Fuck, you’re fragile and pissy.

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