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LGBTQIA+ 13w
bf & I have been open for months & anytime he plays w someone it’s nbd. But anytime I want to, he always throws impromptu conditions b4 I go like “I don’t want u doing X w him until u & I can do X again” & he refuses to acknowledge this double standard
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Anonymous 13w

that's fucked up me and my partner are also in an open relationship and we have zero conditions like that. we just let each other know beforehand and send our locations to each other we don't have any say over the others autonomy unless we feel they are unsafe I'm sorry you're in this situation, what he's doing to you isn't fair or right at all

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Anonymous 13w

Leave?

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Anonymous 13w

Drop him. He sees it as free sex for him and is taking advantage of this style.

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Anonymous 13w

break up with him tf

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Anonymous 13w

Were you polyamorous before starting dating or did someone propose the idea in the middle of your previously monogamous relationship? If so, who proposed it?

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 13w

Yeah it’s getting really frustrating bc he literally does this every time I want to mess around with someone else, but for some reason he conflates me having fun sexually with someone else as taking away from intimacy between my bf and I, which is no where near the case. We still have fun together but he can’t help but compare our experiences together to just ~prospective~ experiences that I have with others, but I would never do the same to him

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 13w

yeah a key part of being in a open relationship is getting joy from your partner's happiness even if you're not the one causing it it seems like he might be too jealous for this maybe you need to close the relationship for now, especially if he can't understand that what he's doing is hurting you

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