LGBTQIA+ on Yik Yak | wish some of you would understand that just because *you* use certain terms gender-neutrally, that doesn’t mean they’re not gendered. i’m tired of being referred to with gendered language and then people act like i’m the weird one for being upset.

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LGBTQIA+ 6w

wish some of you would understand that just because *you* use certain terms gender-neutrally, that doesn’t mean they’re not gendered. i’m tired of being referred to with gendered language and then people act like i’m the weird one for being upset.

Anonymous 6w

impact > intent. ik sometimes you don’t “mean” it like that, but it can still be hurtful. honestly it feels like this is something we’ve backslid on as a community recently.

Anonymous 6w

too real. as an “unaligned” nonbinary person, i’m so tired of saying “please don’t call me girl or dude, etc” and having people try and defend calling me that instead of just saying “sorry” or “ok” and moving on. like if you wouldn’t use he/she to refer to me, don’t use dude/girl either. like…

Anonymous 6w

Seriously! I’m so tired of being called “dude” and “my guy”. I am neither. I don’t care if you have other people who don’t mind— I do, don’t use them with me or I’m not communicating with you at all from that point on.

Anonymous 6w

I think it’s also because they get wrapped up in feminine and masculinity. If someone’s feminine presenting, you call them girl when you’re laughing and then all of a sudden you have to put a Band-Aid over it and be like oh yeah, I say that to everybody. Even though you know you don’t.😭

Anonymous 6w

I think the only one I’ve really messed up on (I’ve had a few years of unconsciously using certain terms and I’ve practiced using the right ones) is ‘guys’. All my life I’ve said, ‘you guys’ to literally every gender. It still messes me up!!

Anonymous 6w

Sister

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Anonymous 6w

Bro

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Anonymous

#2 6w

i think it’s because people get so afraid of “offending” others or being accused of not being “woke enough”, but if i say “please don’t call me that” and you try to defend it THAT is when it becomes offensive. someone expressing a boundary (don’t use gendered language for me) isn’t a personal attack.

Anonymous

#3 6w

I have a question bc I completely understand not liking being referred to as guy, so I work front desk and when I have a group of people come in sometimes I'll say how are you guys is that usage you also wouldn't feel okay with? bc I have been trying to switch to you all instead but sometimes that still comes out

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Anonymous

OP 6w

true

Anonymous

#3 6w

So how are we supposed to refer to people who don’t like slang terms genuinely? This confuses me bc I understand misgendering not calling someone who uses they/them , she or he vice versa , But omg girl or dude this is crazy … just use ur name? Or like what when it’s exciting moment

Anonymous

#6 6w

“dawg” is RIGHT there 😔

Anonymous

#9 6w

grow up