LGBTQIA+ on Yik Yak | Im tired of bisexuals telling me I’m bi bc I slept with men in the past. Correct me if I’m wrong but bi women don’t feel like they have no sexual attraction to men and the only reason they ever slept with men was to convince themselves of heterosexuality

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LGBTQIA+ 3w

Im tired of bisexuals telling me I’m bi bc I slept with men in the past. Correct me if I’m wrong but bi women don’t feel like they have no sexual attraction to men and the only reason they ever slept with men was to convince themselves of heterosexuality

Anonymous 3w

idk why sexual history ≠ sexuality is so hard for people to grasp

Anonymous 3w

Or like “sexuality is fluid you could develop that down the line though, you haven’t met every man” sounds like my mother when i came out in high school lol 💀

Anonymous 3w

Yep it pisses me off. But when a man comes out later in life (but has been with women) they accept him as gay. I knew a guy who was engaged to a woman and came out as gay at 55 and everyone accepted it. I come out as lesbian at 21 but I’m not one because I’ve been a man as a teenager?

Anonymous 3w

I’m sorry that keeps happening you to, it’s attraction that defines your label, not past actions. Comphet is real and you shouldn’t have to deal with people trying to label you as bi because of comphet.

Anonymous 3w

same pple say sexuality is fluid, and it may be for some people who knows, but like if it's fluid can’t you easily go from being bisexual to being lesbian... and idk even if sexuality is fluid like if ur lesbian rn and for the foreseeable future who cares. your sexuality your decision

Anonymous

#1 3w

No literally everyone brings up the fact that when I was 16 I said I loved my high school boyfriend

Anonymous

#1 3w

And then I get told I have internalized biphobia and it’s like identifying as a lesbian has helped me find self love and acceptance. I no longer think about offing myself and I’m genuinely happier but I have people who try to completely discount my experience, and say that my experience is due to internalized biphobia

Anonymous

OP 3w

Yep. But they never do this to gay men. It’s actually so annoying. They don’t deny gay men’s experience about trying to conform to heterosexuality but always deny women’s experiences and pin them as bisexual

Anonymous

#1 3w

It’s bc we all have to be male centered, I think a lot of people who experience attraction towards men are unable to fathom the idea that some people actually aren’t attracted to men

Anonymous

OP 3w

True. Definitely rooted in misogyny and patriarchy

Anonymous

#4 3w

I have had people use the sexuality is fluid thing to be like see you used to like men, so you are still bisexual. But for me I think I was a lesbian the entire time because of how depressed preforming heterosexuality made me

Anonymous

#3 3w

Oh my mom still uses this reasoning. She tells me I’m limiting myself by only dating women and I need to be open to men bc the right one might change me

Anonymous

OP 3w

Yeah mine too 😵‍💫

Anonymous

#3 3w

And like my mom will use the things that she finds bi women saying online (like that all sexuality is fluid and lesbians are predators) and will be like the women in your community say it so it must be true

Anonymous

OP 3w

Yeah that’s especially frustrating like?? we’re supposed to be advocating for each other, its like how fox news took the whole jojo siwa thing “guys they forced her identify as gay, but she’s fixed now the world is healing!!”