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LGBTQIA+ 1w
Why do some people act like les4les isnt valid but t4t is? I dont understand how yall can accept one but not the other. Both are valid dating preferences because they both desire similar experiences in their lives
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Anonymous 1w

well we do need to recognize that t4t didn't arise simply from wanting an accepting partner, but a marginalized group uniquely at risk for domestic/sexual victimization seeking safer partners. and while sapphics are more likely than hets to be victims, it's actually bi sapphics who have the higher rates. not saying les4les isn't valid, just that one arose out of necessity for safety and the other out of preference.

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Anonymous 1w

wtf does les4les mean

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 1w

… lets use context clues here friend

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 1w

i dont get why youre being rude? do you just mean that you dont get with bi girls or smth. i gen dont understand

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 1w

… im not being rude. Im frustrated you would ask me an ingenuine question when it seems youve already made your own assumptions. Its not about “not dating bi girls”. I have and would date bi girls again. But my preference is les4les because i dont relate to the bi experience like i do with the lesbian experience.

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 1w

i mean it was an inherently demeaning response. thanks for answering my question though ...

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 1w

You asked me “wtf is les4les”. Derogatorily asking a question when the post is already about not being accepted as a dating preference is a choice

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 1w

im sorry i did not mean it that strongly

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 1w

i see what you mean

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 1w

Its ok I probably responded on edge and i certainly didnt mean to come off as rude

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 1w

Yeah i definitely agree. But i find it to be slightly disingenuous to suggest that one is perfectly valid while the other isnt. They definitely arose from different circumstances but i think most dating preferences are valid and rarely exclusionary (unless theyre like racial preferences by white people)

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