I’ve been out at my current university all of undergrad (4 yrs, going into 5th), to the point where professors don’t even know my legal name. I don’t really pass, people mainly think I look like a masc lesbian or assume I’m nb out in public. When it comes to the applications, I’m applying to a wide variety of places, and I know TECHNICALLY they can’t discriminate, but w/ everything politically and the already low acceptance rates idk how much I wanna chance it (1/?)
I’m stuck on whether or not I put she/her and female/woman, don’t wish to disclose, or be honest and go transgender man. The people giving my letters of rec only know me as my preferred name and identity, so the convo with them is gonna be awkward when I have to explain that. I just don’t know if it’s worth it to out myself? If I should just wait until I get accepted and then try and change things with the school after? Anyone else with experience in this that could share what they’ve done?
I’m out to my parents and they’re supportive of my identity but not medical transition and they told me I need to apply as a woman. It just sucks and I wanna know if realistically denying and hiding who I am is best in this case. Again, applying all over from CSU (where I’m an undergrad) to Missouri (I’ve heard not good things about their acceptance of queer and trans people). Any and all advice is appreciated :) <3