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LGBTQIA+ 1d
i have pretty much no desire whatsoever to have sex but i don’t know if it’s bc im asexual or bc the thought of anyone seeing my body and experiencing my lack of sexual experience/skill is so scary that it completely overpowers any potential urge
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Anonymous 1d

it’s a compounding issue is the thing; the less desire i have to have sex, the less motivation i have for it, the more unsexy my body becomes. i don’t watch what i eat, my butt is covered in acne scars that i don’t understand, my bush is long as fuck etc. etc. etc. these things in turn make me too embarrassed to flaunt or even share my body. but i don’t care enough about getting laid to put effort into fixing them.

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Anonymous 1d

It’s the attraction that matters! If you’re not attracted to people, which sounds like it’s the case, then you’re probably ace. If you are, then you probably aren’t ace. Your actual libido or desire to have sex in general can be high or low in either case, and both are perfectly valid. You might just need therapy to be able to love your body either way

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 1d

I personally would say if you’re interested in changing that cycle at all, it’s a good enough reason to try. It doesn’t have to just be about looking or feeling sexy, if something just generally feels like improvement to you, that’s good. Desire to actually have sex also isn’t the same as attraction. If you still go “wow that person is pretty and hot” you’re probably not asexual, just have some mental blocks to sort out. A close relationship would probably also change how you feel in some ways

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